Cursing

[djc]

Our daughter (16) has been raised in Sunday School and church all her life. She accepted God into her heart at the age of (10). God is her main focus in her life. She has never had to be made to get up on Sunday morning's to get ready to go to God's house. She loves God and His teaching's and tries very hard to follow His guidance and direction. We, as a family pray every day for the strength to do as God would have us to do but of course we are all sinner's and we do fall short, but God is the all forgiving God. Our daughter has started her very first job and she absolutely loves it, but there is a slight problem of concern that she has. Today, she had another 17 year old employee ask her a question, the question was as follows (Do you ever curse?) our daughter's response was (No, I don't). The bosses daughter(approximate age 32-35) told this 17 year old that (Well, she is in the wrong place then). I thought that she was definitely in the RIGHT place when our daughter spoke to her dad and I about this matter. The bosses daughter curses consistently and this causes much concern with our daughter. My husband and I told her to try very hard to just turn a deaf ear to this woman's cursing. Today our oldest daughter and her family came in for a visit and they went into this place where our youngest daughter works and our youngest daughter waited on her older sister and her family and the bosses daughter really lit into her and it caused much embrassment and humilation. Our daughter just told her that she was sorry that she did not realize that she could not wait on family members and that it would not occur again. As Christians would you give her and us as her parent's some added Christian advice on how she could handle this issue.
God Bless,
Janice

 

[NaasPreacher (C4K)]

Welcome to the board djc!

This particular forum is designed for introductions. One of the moderators or an anministrator will probably move this discussion to a more appropriate place.

Welcome and thanks for posting!

 

[Thankful]

Welcome from Oklahoma

If it were my daughter, I would suggest that she get another job!

 

[menageriekeeper]

I have to agree with Thankful.

It sounds like the bosses daughter is emotionally/spiritually threatened by your daughters sweet spirit and clean mouth. At 16 I wouldn't put my daughter in a place where she could be spiritually/emotionally compromised by such an unbeliever.

However if your daughter is spiritually mature and can handle the attacks from the bosses daughter without losing her focus on God then my advice might be different. I would ask her if she feels like she has been led to be a Godly example for this woman. If she can stand to hear such language day in and day out. Does she otherwise feel comfortable working in this place or are there other things going on that she is uncomfortable with.

Lots of things to consider and pray about. God Bless.

 

[Artimaeus]

That is a tough situation and it is also quite illegal. The foul language is illegal, the harassment in front of others is illegal, and the boss's tolerance is illegal. I would first ask the boss's daughter if she would mind not using that kind of language around me. When that doesn't work (and it won't) I would then ask the boss if he could help make the job less of a "hostile workplace". Do not be threatening at all, let him know that you are sincerely asking for his help but, be sure and use the exact words "hostile workplace". Any person in business knows the significance of those words. It is a serious crime and he could lose his business because of it. Just beware that he may react poorly and find an excuse that he claims is not related and terminate her.

 

[delly]

I've never heard of a someone not being permitted to wait on her own family. If she does her job and doesn't visit while they are there, I see not reason for such a rule.

As to the cursing, the first thing I would do is talk to a lawyer so someone will be aware of what's going on at this place of business. Perhaps the lawyer could visit the business and hear for himself what goes on. Then, if something happens and your daughter gets fired, you will have a credible witness if a lawsuit is necessary. Your daughter's work record is important and, if she loses her job for standing up to this bully, the truth needs to be well documented.

I believe people who curse are seriously deficient in the use of the English language. They also seem to be extremely narcissistic and cursing gets them the attention they crave.

If the situation becomes too stressful for your daughter, advise her to find another job where she does not have to listen to gutter language.

 

[Johnv]

Originally posted by Thankful:
If it were my daughter, I would suggest that she get another job!

I agree with Thankful.

 

[Scott J]

I have recently been interested in the stories of some of the early martyrs. It seems that they willing and meekly, even joyfully, went to their death as a testimony to their devotion to Christ. It seems the better the Christians endured persecution, the more people came to faith in Christ. In fact, one of the early church fathers (Clement of Alex.?) actually advised a leader that it was counter productive to persecute Christians since it resulted in more converts.

Your daughter is actually in a position to be thankful for according to the Bible. She is being persecuted for the sake of Christ.

How she reacts will determine her testimony and perhaps lead to someone being saved. I think she can legitimately appeal to the daughter and to her father in a spirit of sincere meekness. I probably would not go to the legal process and would only quit if I found myself tempted to start using foul language.