Dating a charismatic

[evangelist6589]

Not yet but I have been chatting with this woman and I had some thoughts on her being a charismatic based on some things she has said and my suspicions were confirmed by a YouTube video she sent me. I am not against contemporary praise worship. However I am against Arminianism and woman preachers, tongues, the sign gifts, etc.. I think she is a charismatic rather than a Pentecostal unlike another gal I chatted with last year.

If things were to move forward how would I conduct myself? I have a charismatic background but I turned Calvinist after that. Some of my favorite authors are Charismatic like John Piper, and Francis Chan. I think I should just focus on the essentials of the faith and avoid secondary debates. Speaking in tongues and the sign gifts is not heresy. Woman preachers are bad news however and I won't tolerate a woman pastor.

Boy oh boy.....

 

[Yeshua1]

Not yet but I have been chatting with this woman and I had some thoughts on her being a charismatic based on some things she has said and my suspicions were confirmed by a YouTube video she sent me. I am not against contemporary praise worship. However I am against Arminianism and woman preachers, tongues, the sign gifts, etc.. I think she is a charismatic rather than a Pentecostal unlike another gal I chatted with last year.

If things were to move forward how would I conduct myself? I have a charismatic background but I turned Calvinist after that. Some of my favorite authors are Charismatic like John Piper, and Francis Chan. I think I should just focus on the essentials of the faith and avoid secondary debates. Speaking in tongues and the sign gifts is not heresy. Woman preachers are bad news however and I won't tolerate a woman pastor.

Boy oh boy.....

Make sure that she is NOT into word of faith, proseprity Gospel, as that would make her a non starter dating wise, as you and her would be unequally yoked!

 

[Yeshua1]

Not yet but I have been chatting with this woman and I had some thoughts on her being a charismatic based on some things she has said and my suspicions were confirmed by a YouTube video she sent me. I am not against contemporary praise worship. However I am against Arminianism and woman preachers, tongues, the sign gifts, etc.. I think she is a charismatic rather than a Pentecostal unlike another gal I chatted with last year.

If things were to move forward how would I conduct myself? I have a charismatic background but I turned Calvinist after that. Some of my favorite authors are Charismatic like John Piper, and Francis Chan. I think I should just focus on the essentials of the faith and avoid secondary debates. Speaking in tongues and the sign gifts is not heresy. Woman preachers are bad news however and I won't tolerate a woman pastor.

Boy oh boy.....

would you be comfortable with her if she prayed in tongues, or had a prophecy at church?

 

[JonC]

Not yet but I have been chatting with this woman and I had some thoughts on her being a charismatic based on some things she has said and my suspicions were confirmed by a YouTube video she sent me. I am not against contemporary praise worship. However I am against Arminianism and woman preachers, tongues, the sign gifts, etc.. I think she is a charismatic rather than a Pentecostal unlike another gal I chatted with last year.

If things were to move forward how would I conduct myself? I have a charismatic background but I turned Calvinist after that. Some of my favorite authors are Charismatic like John Piper, and Francis Chan. I think I should just focus on the essentials of the faith and avoid secondary debates. Speaking in tongues and the sign gifts is not heresy. Woman preachers are bad news however and I won't tolerate a woman pastor.

Boy oh boy.....

You have spoken out against charismatics in the past (and strongly so). Given the difficulty that your wife's fundamentalist views have caused you I'd suggest that you exercise discernment and caution.

I remember you speaking of the Christian duty to “battle the Charismatics”. You even said that this battle will cause others to accuse you of being “unloving, divisive, combative, argumentative, [and] cultic.” You challenged us to engage in this war against Charismatics because many souls were at stake, stating “if you want to help me engage the war on the Charismatics you will need a weapon” and offered a GraceToYou link.

My concern is that you will abandon your faith for a woman and then struggle to change her towards your views. I worry that this will have the same result that it had with your wife.


The War on the Charismatic Movement

 

[Salty]

Right now, dating should be the furthest thing from you life.
You have too many other issues to deal with.

 

[JonC]

Salty’s comment reminded me to ask:

Last year you told us your wife had cancer. She (and you) have been in my prayers (and I’m sure on the list of others as well). How is she doing in her struggle with cancer?

 

[Baptist Believer]

f things were to move forward how would I conduct myself?

I realize you have decided I am your enemy, but I want to point out something that I see from what you tell us about your life:

You have very strong convictions until a woman is involved. Then it seems that all bets are off and you lose every conviction you have previously claimed to justify whatever relationship you want to enter into or want to get out of.

The scriptures show us this tremendous weakness of men, over and over, to think with their urges and not with their minds.

Women are not inherently tempters, but men should not compromise who they are just to be with them. You are making yourself a fraud before God, the woman, and the world when you cast aside what you have claimed to be the essence and character of your faith.

At the same time, I would be delighted if you changed some of your theology, thinking and attitudes, so I am not against you rethinking the big issues, but don't do that in the context of trying to get together with a woman. If it even "works", both of you will be unhappy and you with have betrayed your testimony.

 

[Don]

The cycle repeats itself....

 

[evangelist6589]

Right now, dating should be the furthest thing from you life.
You have too many other issues to deal with.

Have you ever heard of a talking Gremlin?

 

[evangelist6589]

would you be comfortable with her if she prayed in tongues, or had a prophecy at church?

I would not practice it.

 

[evangelist6589]

Salty’s comment reminded me to ask:

Last year you told us your wife had cancer. She (and you) have been in my prayers (and I’m sure on the list of others as well). How is she doing in her struggle with cancer?

I have no idea. She never responds to my messages.

 

[annsni]

Why is it that these are huge issues until a woman comes along? You saw just what it was like when you had differences with your wife so why are you even considering moving this forward into more of a relationship? Don't compromise. Move on.

 

[TCassidy]

Have you ever heard of a talking Gremlin?

Your childish response proves Salty is right.

1. You married a woman you had no business marrying.

2. You abandoned the woman, violated your vows to God and made before witnesses.

3. Now you are planning to commit adultery with another victim.

4. And you are openly bragging about it on an internet forum.

5. You claim to believe in "Lordship Salvation" but your life is obviously not under the Lordship of Christ.

I suggest you leave the internet, spend the time you waste here on your face before the Throne of God and get your life back under His Lordship.

 

[evangelist6589]

Your childish response proves Salty is right.

1. You married a woman you had no business marrying.

2. You abandoned the woman, violated your vows to God and made before witnesses.

3. Now you are planning to commit adultery with another victim.

4. And you are openly bragging about it on an internet forum.

5. You claim to believe in "Lordship Salvation" but your life is obviously not under the Lordship of Christ.

I suggest you leave the internet, spend the time you waste here on your face before the Throne of God and get your life back under His Lordship.

My critics always have something to criticize me for!

 

[blessedwife318]

Let me get this straight, a few years ago you were dating another women who was against drinking, went to an IFB church, and was armininan in theology, but since these were "non essential" you thought you could make it work. You than failed to lead your new wife spiritually joining her church and than when you chafed under their rules(that you choose to put yourself under) you started complaining about them and her on a public forum. You were warned at several points in your relationship with your wife that you were on a pathway to divorce. This was told to you before you married her and while you were married to her. Now you have divorced her without Biblical cause and now are heading down the same path again with a charismatic women.
You need to learn from your past and not make the same mistake again, (nevermind the fact that you cannot biblically remarry Matthew 19:9 ).

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[TCassidy]

My critics always have something to criticize me for!

Yes. Your ungodly behavior.

 

[evangelist6589]

Yes. Your ungodly behavior.

A critic can never see anything positive in me!

 

[TCassidy]

A critic can never see anything positive in me!

You hide it well.

 

[evangelist6589]

You hide it well.

For my critics yes.

 

[rlvaughn]

If things were to move forward how would I conduct myself?

I would recommend you conduct yourself by not moving forward. evangelist6589, I don't know you or your personal situation, but from some things you and others have posted here, you have a wife from who you are divorced and that you are both professing Christians. Is that correct? If so, the Bible teaching from I Corinthians 7:10-11 is to remain unmarried in hopes of reconciliation.