Tim,
You just don't get it yet. I hope you will continue to study and put these notions behind you. They are not problems. I don't have the time to participate here right now in this discussion. These problems have been worked through so many times and shown to be non-issues for our position. It is a topic of great interest to many and people have been told things that simply are not true. They just never bothered to really check them out. I believe this is true on all sides of this discussion. I have found the explanations of the "problems" to be satisfactory to my conscience. Perhaps if there is time later, I will return to this. Right now, I have other pressing matters. Please forgive me.
the simple answer, at face value of the text, is that the "coming in judgment" did not have to wait until after the destruction of Jerusalem. That could have been the "coming in judgment" and in fact, the preterists believe this to be the case. (I don't for numerous reasons.) And pretribs, contrary to some people's delusions, do not deny that there will be Christians on the earth during the Tribulation. The Bible is clear that there will be. What we believe is that those Christians are saved after the Rapture since all Christians prior to the Rapture are a part of the church which has been taken out in accord with the teaching of Scripture. In other words, you keep reading the destruction of Jerusalem into all these passages when it is necessary only to support your view, not to exegete the text. That is why I am not compelled to read the destruction into these passages.