daughter lives with boyfriend / comes home for Christmas

GB,
BTW, I'm a man okay, with a girl name.
I really don't appreciate the tone by which you responded. Alot of what you said was based upon assuumption and that is it. If you read my post at the beginning (which maybe you did) I don't know? If you had you would have realized I'm a guy.
I will not even be home with them for Christmas. I never offer advice unless they ask. I pray for them daily. You seem to indicate by your approach that I think I'm a little bit better than them.
If that is how you read it your way off base.
Also, I've been in ministry now for about 13yrs. I have a way better understanding of demonstrating grace to others now than I did when I was first out of bible college. I don't "preach" to my sisters at all. I might have been a little "preachy" when I was alot younger but you learn with age.
I have never forgotten where I came from nor what I was before the Lord saved me.
Also, you state that "I might win the argument but lose the war".
Well I havent declared war on anybody nor do I desire to win an argument for the sake of winning an argument. I believe that is a little childish and petty.
Also, I'm not trying to "impose my moral standards on them" BTW, the standard of being married and not living together is a biblical standard to which I hold it is not "my moral standard" but the Lord's.
Did you ever think that I was making this post because I never do say anything to my parents or them? I just pray for them and offer advice if asked. I encourage them when they go through struggles and try to offer biblical advice in a loving fashion.
I don't get into the affairs of my folk nor my sister's unless asked. Most of the time I'm very low key when I attend family gatherings.
So, don't assume I'm "sticking my nose" in anybody's business. I simply wanted to hear how other folk with wayward family members handle things from time to time.
BTW, I really don't think you read the opening post?
I really don't appeciate you throwing me into the circle of pharisees who condemned the adultress. If that is what your impling your very mistaken with how you percieve my attitude on this matter.
I'm also not judging my sisters at all. I love them to pieces. I just hope they come around before the best years of their lives are over. My one sister wants to simply be married and have a couple of kids so she has stuck with her boyfriend for 6yrs all the while promising her he will marry her. She is settling for her own concoction instead of trusting God to give her His best. She may wind up very broken someday. If she does and that is what brings her back to Christ or to Christ then praise the Lord! I don't think we should mettle in people's lives nor should we be judgemental.Yet, I believe it doesn't hurt to every once in awhile,with a loving Spirit say "hey you might be heading for heartache" if your not careful.
I do agree with you though on the fact that only when the Spirit of God reveals their sin to them then will their sin be illuminated. Such is the case for all who come to Christ.
Also, you can come out of a perfectly balanced home and still wind up a messed up person. A perfectly balanced home life is no sure solution for kids coming to Christ or not. It might make it alot easier or the path a little clearer but each person is going to deal with themselves before God individually which I'm sure you know. I'm not implying you didn't.
If I misperceived your post I'm sorry. You just came across a little bit to sure of yourself concerning how you think I'am handling the situation. If I am wrong I stand corrected.