Spend more time with the Lord
Read and study your Bible
Ask the Lord to bring you closer to your wife
You had mention some of her faults .
Is it possible you had faults and this was her way (keeping you from her clan) of rebelling
Keep loving your wife - Read Proverbs 31
Read I Cor chapter 13 esp vs 8 & 13
So instead of asking the Lord to change her, take the advice of Evelyn Christenson.
No need to buy the book, the title is self-sufficient -
Lord, Change me!
One other thing - you said you met a Pentecostal - you had several problems with a Baptist gal -
Need I say more.....
Several in this thread have said they will be praying for you in time of testing for you.
I exhort you to not allow the devil to win this battle. Heb 3:13