There is no NT text that says that ANY human is more important to Him than others, which is what the teaching of "election", or, rather, "elitism", as taught by Reformed, is
Respectfully,
I think that your differentiating between the "whosoever believeth" and "God's elect" overlooks one very real aspect...they are one and the same.
Those that have believed on Christ from the heart ( not just with the mind and then fall away during trials and temptation, see Matthew 13 ), are the elect.
As for being "elite", to me that is your mind's reaction to something that it finds distasteful...and disagreeing with God's right to have mercy upon whom He wishes ( Exodus 33:19, Romans 9:13-18 ) and to limit His choice of the sinner to salvation ( 2 Thessalonians 2:13-14 ) according to
His purposes.
Scripture point-blank talks of God's purposes according to election standing ( Romans 9:11 ).
That we as men have no business replying to God and asking, "why have you made me this way?" ( Romans 9:19-24 )
From God's point of view they are beloved and are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus ( Ephesians 2:10 ), but according to other passages, they are "scarcely saved", and come from basically the "nobodies" of society ( 1 Corinthians 1:18-31 ).
To address your first point, God's elect are not elite...
They are dirt bag sinners the same as the rest of mankind, whom God has shown His favor towards...
And, speaking strictly for myself, none of us can figure out why He bothered with us.
From my point of view, there is nothing inherently
worth saving in a bunch of fishermen, mechanics, tax collectors, prostitutes, farmers, hill folk, coal miners, sailors, cotton pickers, slaves and other run-of-the-mill poor people who have, more often than not, been guilty of some of the most heinous sins that have ever been recorded.
Case-in-point:
The thief on the cross, Samson, Jacob, and many others in the Bible...
Including Moses and David.
To me, the charge of "elitism" keeps being made, when the reality of it is that no one who comes to Christ is in any way better or worse than any man in God's eyes;
and is in any way more or less deserving of God's grace than the next person.
We're all sinners deserving of eternal punishment in God's wrath ( no matter if we've committed one sin or a million ), and none of us has anything to stand on except that mercy and grace.
Please don't blame the Lord for deciding to save whom He wishes...
It's His prerogative to save and to damn;
We all deserve it.
If you come to understand that fully, perhaps you will come to understand grace in it's true and Biblical sense, my friend.
Grace is God's completely
unmerited favor towards rebellious sinners who deserve His wrath in eternal Hell fire.