An attempt at scriptural debate.
Pro 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Pro 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Eph 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
If we consider these verses in view of the fact that there is still individual will, and that God is not going to force an individual to believe in Him, then we would have to say that these verses are generally true - but there is no guarantee.
As parents, we do our best to follow God's Word in raising our kids - sometimes they don't turn out like we want or hope. For instance, hypothetically, if I understand these verses (and all other pertinent ones of course) and do my best to apply them, and my son (child) does not turn out "right" - can I truly be considered a pastoral candidate - or would I be disqualified - whether before or after the ordination?
1Ti 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
1Ti 3:3 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;
1Ti 3:4 One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
1Ti 3:5 (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
1Ti 3:6 Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.
1Ti 3:7 Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.
The answer is, even if you knew me, and knew how loving, and disciplining, and patient and etc., that I have been with my son; and even if you knew what a self-willed, ingrate, bad-seed my son was (or even if you thought he was basically 'good' but just making some really lousy decisions) - the answer is I AM BIBLICALLY DISQUALIFIED FROM HOLDING THE OFFICE. GOD SAYS SO. GOD'S STANDARDS APPLY NOT MAN'S.
Two aspects of this 'list' of qualifications apply. First of all, we may want to look at it as a cohesive standard - not individual 'litmus tests' if that helps. The two aspects are:
1) Blamelessness (NOT sinlessness - there seems to be some confusion here)
2) Having a good report of them which are without
Here is what Wuest says about blameless:
"1Ti 3:2 (3:2) The word "blameless" is anepilambanō, made up of lambanō, "to take," and epi, "upon"; thus, the compound means "to lay hold upon," and all this is stated in the negative by having prefixed to it the letter, Alpha, making the entire word mean, "one who cannot be laid hold upon." That is, a bishop must be of such a spotless character that no one can lay hold upon anything in his life which would be of such a nature as to cast reproach upon the cause of the Lord Jesus. He presents to the world at large such a Christian life that he furnishes no grounds for accusation. Expositors says: "It is not enough for him to be not criminal; he must be one against whom it is impossible to bring any charge of wrong doing such as could stand impartial examination. He must be without reproach (R.V.), irreprehensible (Trench).""
Wuest again on having a good report:
"1Ti 3:7 (3:7) The words, "good report," are marturian kalēn, "an excellent testimony." "Those without" refers to the non-Christian world in the midst of which the saints live. Expositors says: "In the passage before us, indeed, St. Paul may be understood to imply that the opinion of 'those without' might usefully balance or correct that of the Church. There is something blameworthy in a man's character if the consensus of outside opinion be unfavorable to him; no matter how much he may be admired and respected by his own party. . . . One cannot safely assume, when we are in antagonism to it, that, because we are Christians, we are absolutely in the right and the world wholly wrong. Thus to defy public opinion in a superior spirit may not only bring discredit (reproach) on one's self and on the Church, but also catch us in the devil's snare, namely, a supposition that because the world condemns a certain course of action, the action is therefore right and the world's verdict may be safely set aside."
Translation: Moreover, it is a necessity in the nature of the case for him to be having an excellent testimony from those on the outside, lest he fall into reproach and into the snare of the devil."
The point being, can I truly be considered blameless, in the pastoral qualifying sense, if I tried really hard to do right, and you know I tried really hard to do right?
Will those that are without, whom know full well how my son is have a good report of me, in the pastoral qualifying sense?
-- Due to length, I will continue on another post --