There is nothing "unfair" with God. Even an infant is deserving only of the wrath of God. It is by God's grace do we believe that infant will be in heaven, for God is merciful. We have done nothing to merit God's grace or mercy. We are poor, wretched, sinners, deserving only of his wrath. And that is the reason that Christ came to die for us.
Christ didn't force his righteousness on any one. One must believe and accept that righteousness as a gift in order to obtain it. We are born in sin. We must be born again. We are born with a sin nature. We must be born anew to have a new nature. We are conformed to this world. We need to be conformed to Christ.
Act 9:14 And here he hath authority from the chief priests to bind all that call on thy name.
Act 9:15 But the Lord said unto him, Go thy way: for he is a chosen vessel unto me, to bear my name before the Gentiles, and kings, and the children of Israel: Act 9:16 For I will shew him how great things he must suffer for my name's sake. Act 9:17 And Ananias went his way, and entered into the house; and putting his hands on him said, Brother Saul, the Lord, [even] Jesus, that appeared unto thee in the way as thou camest, hath sent me, that thou mightest receive thy sight, and be filled with the Holy Ghost. Act 9:18 And immediately there fell from his eyes as it had been scales: and he received sight forthwith, and arose, and was baptized.
Do you think Paul thought of the above when he wrote the following?
but the election hath obtained it, and the rest were blinded (According as it is written, God hath given them the spirit of slumber, eyes that they should not see, and ears that they should not hear

unto this day.
I ask again, did Paul all of a sudden have a faith in Jesus that came from within himself or did Jesus thru election remove his blindness?
Fair or unfair has to do with what are they elected for. see post 306
Eternal life and eternal death sounds like an oxymoron to me. I do not think they both can apply to one person.