Are we not as church members under the authority of the pastor, other leaders and the church itself?
Christ is the head of the church and is it's Authority,
not the pastor and not the deacons;
Those elders are only functioning in their offices as guiding the church and as serving it, and not as being lords
over it.
Younger brothers and sisters are subject to the elder for reasons of respect and because of their labor for the welfare of the body...
Not for reasons of being subjugated as "lessers" in any way, shape or form.
The church
as a whole has the authority to discipline, correct in love, instruct in doctrine and to oversee the physical and spiritual welfare of its members.
Again,
It's nothing like the military.
Unlike when I was an E-5 in the U.S. Navy and had authority as an NCO over anyone in my shop that was assigned to me, this type of thing does not carry over to those whom God has saved to an eternal relationship with Him and His Son.
To me, that is the doctrine of the Nicolaitans, which thing the Lord hates ( Revelation 2:6, Revelation 2:15 ).
Respect for elders is not so much earned, but rather it is commanded by the Lord ( 1 Thessalonians 5:12-13, 1 Timothy 5:17, Hebrews 13:7, Hebrews 13:17 ).
He is the one who has made them overseers of the flock ( Acts of the Apostles 20:28 ), not men.
See 1 Corinthians 12:4-11.
God has given each member of the body gifts.
He also gives some teachers, some preachers, some evangelists ( Ephesians 4:11-14 ).
It is within this context that elders like pastors and deacons are to function;
For the edifying of the body, building it up in the faith.