Please let me make a clarification, I understand what everyone is saying and I agree that OVERALL God does have a plan for our lives from day one and He does have control over all things and he is sovereign...what I am saying is He is
LIMITED in what He can and can't do, according to His whole character....for instance.
GOD CANNOT LIE
HE CANNOT GO AGAINST HIS NATURE
HE CANNOT PUPPETEER MANKIND TO LOVE HIM
God is Holy, Righteous and Just..but He is also Loving, Merciful and Kind. So when God does something it must coincide with the opposite part of His nature. For instance....
It always bothered me, why did the dude who touch the ARK die? That wasn't very nice...but he was being disobedient as he knew better. I also saw how God's HOLINESS superseded mans disobedience.
Kind of like our laws in our country today...we are told to OBEY these laws according to Romans 13...but NEVER at the extent of God's word and God's laws....does that make sense? The gospel alone is a great example of how He was able to take the gap of mans SIN and God's HOLINESS and make it work out so He doesn't contradict Himself. I can give many examples of how God's ways show he is always consistent with His nature...now that being said, this is why I understand Romans 8:28 the way I do as has it not only been revealed to me by God, but my life experience have taught me so as well.
Have I been hurt? More than anyone can know.
From day one....what I have learned from injustice, pain, abandonment, near death experiences etc is (I should write about this) that no matter what I go through, who hurts me, how unfair life is etc. I know that I am GODS CHILD and I am responsible for ME and the choices I make with God's guidance....I got saved at 22 and am now 49...I have been through more than anyone can imagine to mainly no fault of my own...but obviously it all being a PLAN from God for my life, my writing and insight being one of them, I am told. God has called me (and I am sure other Christians) to be TRUE to WHO I am while at the same time..OBEYING those 2 commandments Jesus said..."Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul and mind and others as yourself"...That is what I am called to do not matter what SATAN throws my way...and boy does he....and I think I am been faithful in this area, as you can see it is a pet peeve of mine not to.
God has taught me that I can go my own way if I want (yes, from being hurt by those who said they loved God but didn't show it or live it) I can go back to my old ways and I did a bit, but because like Romans 8:28--- says I was Predestined to be His and He FOREKNEW me (LOVED ME) He wasn't going to let me get too far, before His love drew me back to Him....like the Israelites in the desert, they didn't have to wander and go around in circles, if they had ONLY obey and done what was right and LOVED God they would have made it to the PROMISE LAND (God just now gave this analogy to me and is a good one

...and experience all that was GOOD...the milk and honey and over plentiful goodness. But no they chose to go there own way even though they were God's people and never experienced the GOOD God wanted for them.
See what I am saying....the GOOD that God wants from me and you and the Israelites....is for us to LOVE Him so much that no matter what trials Satan throws out way...God will be there to work it out for GOOD cause our EYES are on him and not our circumstances....that is the GOOD God wants from all His children....HIS GOOD!.....not ours...ours in the sense of more money, status, pleasures and stuff like that...but His GLORIFICATION!
Hope that helps.
