First Names

[SBCJen]

So what would you do if my kids were to address you as Mrs "Jones"?

That's not my name! =) LOL Well, if that's what their parents make them call me, I have to deal with it, I just said I can't stand it, I don't like it at all. With the kids at church it's usually "Miss Jennifer" which doesn't make me cringe quite as much as Mrs. mylastname.

 

[SBCJen]

None of the answers work for me. I allow anyone of any age to call me by my first name except for my daughters and grandkids, and I expect my nieces and nephews to add Uncle to my first name or just call me Uncle as some do.

I have 9 nieces and nephews on my husband's side and they have never called me "Aunt" always just Jennifer. Most of my oldest daughter's friends just call me mom.

 

[Dr. Bob]

Returning to visit my alma mater after receiving my Master's, I met a beloved faculty mentor in the hall. I greeted him as "Dr Weeks". He looked up at me (I am 6'6" and he was 5' nothing) and said, "My name is Dick. You're not a student any more and are out in the ministry. I consider us equals."

I was ego-inflated with his kind words. But never called him Dick. Ever until the day he died. I was not and am not his equal.

Titles show respect. I'm not going to visit Crawford and walk by and ask to talk to "W". Just never appropriate for us.

 

[JohnDeereFan]

Titles show respect. I'm not going to visit Crawford and walk by and ask to talk to "W". Just never appropriate for us.

You mean you're not going to do like Jimmy Rollins did and call him "Dog"?

 

[tinytim]

I'm 34 and I can NOT stand for a child or person of any age for that matter to call me miss, Mrs., ma'am, etc. My name is Jennifer or Jen, (or Jenny or hey you or...) that's what you may call me. As for my own kids, I'll have them call other adults by whatever that adult prefers. But, personally, I think it's a bit selfish for any adult to feel as if they "deserve" some special title or respect. The only being who "deserves" it is God. You and I deserve nothing.

I TOTALLY agree with you.. my boys call people by what they want called...
I grew up calling my grandparents, Grandma, Grandpa, papaw, mamaw.. Some Aunts and Uncles I add the title "Aunt" or "Uncle".. others I don't.

The only people I had to call Mr. and Mrs. to was my teachers..
and now I am friends on facebook with one of my favorite teachers, and I still call her Mrs. C. But she doesn't mind if I call her Diana.

I ABSOLUTELY hate it when someone calls me MR. or Sir.. I am Tim.
When people call me Mr. I politely let them know I prefer to go by the name mom gave me... Tim. I don't like Rev. If they have to, "Pastor Tim" works.

I want to be personal to people.. not hide behind man made name barriers.

And I think it's ubsurd to call a woman "Mrs" then the name of her husband...
For example Lucille Ball being called "Mrs Ricky Ricardo" on "I Love Lucy"

Men do not own women, and the women can be called by their own names...

 

[tinytim]

I'm not going to visit Crawford and walk by and ask to talk to "W". Just never appropriate for us.

Aww.. come on I dare you.. I DOUBLE DOG dare you DR. Bob!... :laugh::laugh:

 

[RAdam]

I don't see why people have such a problem with titles like Mr. or Miss. What's the deal? It's just good manners to address an elder in such a way. I was taught growing up that I was to respect my elders. Now, some will tell me not to call them Mr. or Mrs. or whatever, but I still end up doing it out of habit. I still say yes ma'am and yes sir to older individuals, even those I preach to. I'm going to teach my son to do the same. I don't get mad when a kid addresses me without a sir or a mr., but I also don't get mad when they do. It's not a barrier, it's called good manners. They are trying to show respect and do as their parents taught them, and I don't believe I should try to undermine that.

I will not like it if someone calls me reverand though, that's a name reserved for God in my book.

 

[righteousdude2]

When They Are...

.... given permission by that adult, or, in an adult's case, by their peer.

I was allowed to address several medical doctors by their first name, when I worked with them in vocational rehabilitation.

However, they made it clear, that when we were in the public arena of life, it was Dr. "so-in-so".

So, to keep me from slipping, I always gave them the respect of their field.

Hope this helps.

Pastor Paul

 

[gb93433]

Never unless the person is the same age or younger, or the older person specifically address the issue.

Years ago when I taught a group of men who were my grandmother's age at the time always called me "teacher". They did that even when I told them to just call me by my first name. They were taught respect for the teacher and we unable to "violate" that in their own minds.

 

[Salty]

Bumping this for new members

 

[righteousdude2]

Only When....

When is acceptable for a young person to call an adult by their first name.




For the purpose of this discussion, we will consider age 21 as an adult.

....the adult in question, gives the child or person that right. To most people, I am either Pastor Paul or Paul. However, to some, I am still Mr. Zimmer. I choose who will call me what by how comfortable I feel with them as a person.

And sometimes, especially when I'm teaching a junior college class, or adult education class, Mr. Z is a term of respect. I may not like it, or even feel comfortable with it, but there are times we deserve the respect of our position in life.

I usually tell most folks that ""mr. Zimmer was my father" so they can call me "Paul!" :wavey:

 

[HAMel]

Years ago, in the South, (NC) the locals would refer to a married woman (Mrs.) by pronouncing it as Miz-ress. I always got a chuckle out of that when I heard it. :laugh:

Otherwise, I always referred to my peers as Mr. or Mrs. Still do.

 

[Born Again]

When they are told to do so. For our children, everyone was Mr. or Mrs. or Miss unless they were told otherwise. For some of our close friends, they call them Aunt and Uncle so and so. For other friends (mainly at church), we use Mr. or Miss and the first name so I'm Miss Ann to some of my kid's friends. It's only if they are told they can use the first name that they are allowed to do it so. I STILL use Mr./Mrs./Miss unless I'm introduced by the first name instead and allow them to tell me to use their first name and I'm 45!!

Ditto. Kind of like when is it NOT acceptable for a young person to say "ma'am" or "sir". Our current culture is deluged with a lack of respect.