We were made sinners. Does that mean we became sinners when we sinned? Of course not.
Calvinists claim being spiritually dead means having total spiritual inability. But, again, that is obviously false doctrine, as the people of
Matthew 23:13 had some spiritual ability even though being spiritually dead. I define being spiritually dead as being spiritually separated from our holy God because the lost are unholy. Here it is in a nutshell - separated from God = spiritually dead, united with God, (i.e. together with God) results in being made "alive" thus not spiritually dead.
Since the lost have limited spiritual ability, able to understand spiritual milk but not spiritual solid food, there is no basis for the invention of "irresistible grace" or "prevenient grace" to overcome a non-existent condition.
Our individual election is by way of our faith as credited by God. Numerous verses clearly point to our being chosen for salvation through or by way of our faith being credited as righteousness. 2 Thessalonians 2:13, James 2:5, etc.
Arminianism is correct or nearly correct on at least two points, Christ died for all humanity and God's choice of individuals for salvation is conditioned on accepting their faith, not foreseen faith.
Matthew 23:13 demonstrates that the unregenerate can believe in God and seek God yet be turned away by false teachings.
Christ died for all mankind (
1 Timothy 2:6), becoming the propitiation (means of salvation) for the whole world (
1 John 2:2), but only those who God credits their faith in Christ as righteousness (
Romans 4:4-5; 4:23-24) are then spiritually placed in Christ by God (
1 Corinthians 1:30), and receive the reconciliation provided by Christ’s sacrifice (
Romans 5:10-11). Thus we are saved by grace through faith and not by the will or actions of men.
Ephesians 2:8-9.