Good point, we shouldn’t overlook the employee’s poor behavior and the damage she could cause to the business because of her action. She is not innocent in this. The employer was not gracious, didn't even talk to her first, I don’t know the employee’s financial situation and responsibilities or if she even considered the repercussions to her actions, but people make mistakes and grace should be in the picture.
The church probably made an innocent mistake, but that issue is up for debate considering some don’t think you should tip for takeout. I don’t believe that is always the case that we shouldn't tip which brings us back to erring on being over gracious or over stingy. I still believe the church could have turned the situation from being looked upon as stingy (which is why this became news) to being gracious and reaching out help the employee who lost her job by giving her the refund for the food they did in fact eat. They could have come out shining but looks like they missed that boat.