Nevertheless, you had to reverse the Biblical order of cause and effects to defend your theory. If that is what you have to do with some parts of the Bible to defend your theory then why should anyone accept your theory as Biblical?
The wrong opinions of Calvinists are the result of failing to comprehend the whole of scritpure. If their view was correct and there were no other scriptures in contradiction to those views, then their position would be unassailable. As it is, given their base assumptions and using only the scriptures which support those assumptions, it is understandable that they cannot see the errors of their position.
Election is of grace (Rom. 11:5) and therefore unconditional and must be because there is none that seeketh after God by their own free choice (Rom. 3:11) as they "always resist the Holy Ghost" (Acts 7:51) and if God left man completely to his own free choice none would be saved. Hence, elective grace is the mercy of God saving a great number of men that justly deserve wrath even as others.
You have outlined the Calvinist position fairly succinctly.
The Apostle Paul is set forth as the example of salvation of God's elect. He was on his way to persecute and kill Christians and Christ intervened and changed Paul's heart in spite of himself so that he explains his own salvation by grace as characteristic of his first birth wherein he played absolutely no causation but both his first and second birth were according God's timing and good pleasure by divine revelation:
The Apostle Paul said to Agrippa, "King Agrippa, believest thou the prophets? I know that thou believest." Paul knew he was not talking to a dead man who could not hear and believe the scriptures, and he knew the problem was not that they could not hear and believe, but that they chose not to obey the scriptures they knew to be true, like those reprobates in Rom. 1.
Gal. 1:15 But when it pleased God, who separated me from my mother’s womb, and called me by his grace,
16 To reveal his Son in me,
Nothing prevents the cheif of sinner from coming to Christ but their own free choice to resist and reject Christ.
A choice God reasons with them over in Isa. 1, "Come now and let us reason together... If ye be willing and obedient... But if ye refuse and rebel..." The choice is man's. God has reconciled the world unto Himself by the shed blood of Jesus Christ, and we are His ambassadors to plead with the world to be reconciled to God. The choice it theirs, however, and God will not make it for them.
Nothing obtains the free choice by the cheif of sinners to come to Christ but the elective free grace of God.
If it were true that God is pleased to create sinners for the pleasure of sending them to hell, this would be true, but God has no pleasure in the death of the wicked, a fact omitted in Calvinist doctrine which is at the root of their error.
The only reason sinners can not come to Christ by their own free choice is because they will not come to Christ by their own free choice and the only reason they will not come to Christ by their own free choice is because they love darkness and hate the light. (Jn. 3:18-20) Sinners will never come to the light until God gives them a new heart (Deut. 29:4 with Ezek. 36:26) that hates darkness and loves the light as that is the only kind of heart that comes to the light for "with the heart man believeth." (Rom. 10:10)
This view, again, is based on the whole of scriptures compiled by Calvinists which support their unique doctrines, but when other contradicting scriptures are injected into the discussion, Calvinist positions must be reformulated in order to fit those scriptures, and reformulated Calvinist positions which accomodate all scriptures are no longer Calvinist at all. No doctrine should leave out any scriptures at any time. Man does not live by one word or even some words of God, but by every word of God.
God has chosen a people to give to his son to save and has chosen the means to save those people (2 Thess. 2:13). He has chosen the foolishness of preaching to save them that believe but none will repent and believe the gospel as long as the gospel comes in word only (1 Thes. 1:4-5). To the elect it comes not in word only but in power and in the Holy Spirit and in much assurance. Therefore it is not him that willeth or him that runneth but of God that sheweth mercy.
The fact that election is not based on works is another problem for Calvinists. Men do not go to hell for just any sin, but only for rejecting the word of God and not repenting of that sin when they know God is telling them the truth, just like in Agrippa's situation. People don't go to hell in ignorance, contrary to Calvinist ideas. Sin is not imputed when there is no law (Rom. 5). If Jesus had not done among them the works that proved He was of God, then they would not have had sin (John 15). All sins and blasphemies shall be forgiven all men (Mark 3), except for the sin of disrespect and rejection of the Holy Ghost at the time the Holy Spirit is enlightening them and drawing them to Christ (John 1 & 12). God, in Christ, reconciled the world unto Himself and sends us out to tell others that fact, pointing out that sin is no longer an obstacle keeping them from coming to God for God no longer is imputing their trespasses unto them (2 Cor. 5)
