What some people need is a valid experience.
Most Christians who reject the gifts of the Holy Spirit today (or in history) do so because they have never seen anyone who they considered as credible using a gift of the Holy Spirit.
My history is growing up in a Southern Baptist church, and going to a conservative Christian college. After my first four years, I attended a charismatic church, where I saw valid demonstration of the gifts of the Holy Spirit. I accepted the offer of the Holy Spirit to be involved in what He was doing. I went back to college, got married, and kept it a secret between me and the Holy Spirit what we had agreed to. It was 7 years after we were married that by accident my wife found out I was a closet charismatic.
(By the way, my definition of charismatic differs from most Baptists. It's not just about speaking in tongues, though tongues are included. It's about receiving all that the Holy Spirit has for me as a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ.)
Because I was credible to my wife, she also entered into all that the Holy Spirit had for her.
We were mentored by a Vineyard pastor for about 7 years. During this time, we saw many people who were healed from a variety of sicknesses. Some were healed instantly. Some were healed through process. All felt the love of the Lord Jesus.
We have continued to grow. We are currently members of a Southern Baptist church in our city. No, we are not trying to influence them to be like us. We are basically invisible to them. We have been assigned to this church by the Living God, because He loves them, just like He loves us.
What is amazing to me is this:
Because of what I know, I see a group of people (our church) who have accepted Jesus as their Savior. They remind of a group of people in the book of Acts.
Acts 19:1 While Apollos was at Corinth, Paul took the road through the interior and arrived at Ephesus. There he found some disciples 2 and asked them, "Did you receive the Holy Spirit when you believed?"
They answered, "No, we have not even heard that there is a Holy Spirit."
19:3 So Paul asked, "Then what baptism did you receive?"
"John's baptism," they replied.
19:4 Paul said, "John's baptism was a baptism of repentance. He told the people to believe in the one coming after him, that is, in Jesus." 5 On hearing this, they were baptized into the name of the Lord Jesus. 6 When Paul placed his hands on them, the Holy Spirit came on them, and they spoke in tongues and prophesied. 7 There were about twelve men in all.
There are incredible needs in our church. And what I see is this:
Because the Holy Spirit gives gifts to each person, ( 1 Cor 12:11 All these are the work of one and the same Spirit, and he gives them to each one, just as he determines.), every person in the Southern Baptist church I attend has at least one gift of the Holy Spirit. But these gifts are locked up in these people. The needs are great, and much of the help that they need is right with them. But because of their belief systems, they cannot use the gifts that they have been given; to have supernatural wisdom, knowledge, faith, healing, miracles, prophecy, discernment of spirits (incredibly needed in our day), and yes, tongues.
For anyone reading this, tongues are not the least of the gifts, they are the most accessible. Basically, if you want tongues, you can have them. If you don’t want them, it’s most likely that you won’t get them. I know this will make some pretty mad, but that’s the way I see it, from what the Holy Spirit has taught me.
My wife and I have been privileged that the Holy Spirit has allowed us to use most of the gifts at one time or another. We are not special. We have not appeared on TV. We are not taking a collection. We are invisible to most people. But we occasionally get to see the love of the Living God in action. Like this last Monday night. A lady visited us in our weekly prayer meeting, and we prayed for her after the prayer meeting. (Our 13 year old son joins us in our prayer meetings, and he is growing greatly in using the gifts of the Holy Spirit.) Several of the gifts were used; wisdom, knowledge, faith, healing. Basically, through this encounter, this lady was greatly encouraged to go forward in her walk with the Lord Jesus.
You will find many in this forum who do not accept that the gifts of the Holy Spirit are for our generation. You can be a Christian and believe this. But for those who are seeking, let the Holy Spirit know that you want all that He has for you. You won’t be disappointed. Expect the Holy Spirit to gift you with the gifts that He gives, just like He did in the first century.