Foul Language in Restaurant at Table Next to You - WWYD?

[righteousdude2]

This evening my wife an I went out for a nice sit-down meal, and after we ordered a man and woman came in and sat at the table across from us!

Because I spent years with the DOJ and Social Services, as well as a volunteer at the LA Union Rescue Mission for 24 years, I could see the lady was stoned or high on something! Of course, her behavior was loud and obnoxious, but what offended me was the man and his foul language which peppered with "F-bombs" every third or fourth word.

So, other than the manager asking them to lower the volume of their profane conservation, there seemed little more the restaurant was willing to do not to offend the other customers.

They finally lowered the volume, but because of our proximity to their table, we could still hear them. We noticed two other tables of customers leave; we remained as our meal had just been served, and as a diabetic, I needed to eat!

After they left I talked with the manager, and she said she received ten separate complaints about their manner of dress [apparently the lady had on nor underwear, and left dribbled urine on the booth seat] and language!

So, what would you do? I am not doing a poll on this; I figured your responses to my concerns will be more than adequate, and I appreciate it very much!

One more thing, the manager finally took them their check and told them to leave, after the man made a sexual comment to the waitress, and she refused to finish serving them!

Man, this world seems to be sliding down a slippery slope at high speed! :tear:

 

[abcgrad94]

We had almost the same scenario a few months ago. In this case, there was a young child with the stoned couple. We immediately called the police to let them know a toddler was with two very stoned adults and we were concerned as the couple had driven to the restaurant. We knew if they were driving impaired, the child's life was in danger.

The cops were there within a couple of minutes and stayed a long time outside the restaurant checking out the car. When the couple was ready to leave, the police were talking to them. I don't know what happened after that, because we left the restaurant, but I do know the police response time was faster than I'd ever seen it before, probably because a child was involved.

 

[evenifigoalone]

This has happened. Late one night while on vacation was eating at Red Robin and happened to get a table next to this really loud group of people.

Didn't do anything, though in hindsight maybe should have asked the staff to request them to calm down a little.
It's other people's business what language they use (I'm no saint when it comes to that, either, in the privacy of my own thoughts), but a restaurant isn't the right place for it. They were being disruptive and unpleasant.

 

[Zaac]

[off topic and inflaming]

 

[Don]

Based upon the topic, could it be possible that the folks at the next table had visited the BB or some other Christian board and copied how to not speak in love and how to make snide, cynical remarks about everything but using their own terms?

The same type behavior is displayed on this board everyday. It may not be the same words, but it's the same behavior.

Do you have anything positive to contribute to the discussion? Or do you only put down other Christians "out of love"?

 

[Zaac]

[snipped]

And next time a Christian is sitting in such a situation, let the owner know and resign yourself to, in the future, not to talk to others in the same manner that the folks at the table were talking. How's that?

 

[evenifigoalone]

The attitude of some posters bugs me, too. But that's not what this topic is about, nor was there any squabbling going on in this thread. Please don't start any, I prefer pleasant discussions.

 

[Zaac]

The attitude of some posters bugs me, too. But that's not what this topic is about, nor was there any squabbling going on in this thread. Please don't start any, I prefer pleasant discussions.

I'll assume that means me as is usually the case when I disagree with the mote response. How about you request that posters address what I say instead of me personally and all will be well?

Perhaps it is their attitudes that need adjusting.

 

[evenifigoalone]

I'll assume that means me as is usually the case when I disagree with the mote response. How about you request that posters address what I say instead of me personally and all will be well?

Perhaps it is their attitudes that need adjusting.

No, you're not the only one I'm addressing. But you didn't need to bring it up in the first place this thread; it only invited conflict into what might otherwise have been a pleasant and fruitful discussion. It was also off topic.

I've complained about the attitudes of others, too, I'm not saying that's necessarily wrong. But I don't think I've ever brought it into threads that had nothing to do with it. Only in threads where fighting had already broken out.

 

[Zaac]

No, you're not the only one I'm addressing. But you didn't need to bring it up in the first place this thread; it only invited conflict into what might otherwise have been a pleasant and fruitful discussion. It was also off topic.

It was not off topic. It was off the expected let's point the finger at everyone but us response. You want to do with this what we do with everything and that's look at everybody else.

I would venture that not a word of prayer was said to God for the couple by the OP or anyone else. Denials are expected. But you guys like to look at things from one angle. I like to look at them from the angle of what can we, the Body of Christ, do to better this situation?

When folks on this board everyday treat each other the same way as folks using foul language at a dinner table would, what can we do to set a better example?

My response is on topic. It just addresses us as part of the issue.

I've complained about the attitudes of others, too, I'm not saying that's necessarily wrong. But I don't think I've ever brought it into threads that had nothing to do with it. Only in threads where fighting had already broken out.

There is no fighting. Yall seem to think it's fighting just because I don't go along with the always going after everybody else when we do the same thing. And because I point that out, it's always "You've got an attitude or you're always pointing the finger at CHristians or you think you're Jesus or you've got such a holier than thou attitude" when the same type attitudes have been expressed by the person making the comments against anyone who doesn't do or act or believe as they do.

I don't deny that the unsaved can act the fool. They have an excuse. What's ours?

So instead of always looking outwards, let's start to look within.

 

[Berean]

Sounds like you were eating at the EAT & RUN truck stop.

 

[evenifigoalone]

It was not off topic. It was off the expected let's point the finger at everyone but us response. You want to do with this what we do with everything and that's look at everybody else.

I would venture that not a word of prayer was said to God for the couple by the OP or anyone else. Denials are expected. But you guys like to look at things from one angle. I like to look at them from the angle of what can we, the Body of Christ, do to better this situation?

When folks on this board everyday treat each other the same way as folks using foul language at a dinner table would, what can we do to set a better example?

My response is on topic. It just addresses us as part of the issue.




There is no fighting. Yall seem to think it's fighting just because I don't go along with the always going after everybody else when we do the same thing. And because I point that out, it's always "You've got an attitude or you're always pointing the finger at CHristians or you think you're Jesus or you've got such a holier than thou attitude" when the same type attitudes have been expressed by the person making the comments against anyone who doesn't do or act or believe as they do.

I don't deny that the unsaved can act the fool. They have an excuse. What's ours?

So instead of always looking outwards, let's start to look within.

Actually, Zaac, I barely ever speak to you. Please don't assume that everything I've said is some cheap shot directed at you and you alone. If you annoyed me that badly, you wouldn't hear from me at all because you'd be on my ignore list.

 

[Zaac]

Actually, Zaac, I barely ever speak to you.

But what does that have to do with what you said when you did speak?

Please don't assume that everything I've said is some cheap shot directed at you and you alone. If you annoyed me that badly, you wouldn't hear from me at all because you'd be on my ignore list.

Oh I didn't assume that. I assumed it was said in a way to include everyone but it was intended primarily for me.:laugh:

 

[Scarlett O.]

Back to the topic....

If they were under the influence enough (or even suspected of being) for her to urinate on the chair and for them to cause that much of a horrible raucous (including his sexual comments to the waitress), then it's my opinion that the police should have been called.

They got a nice meal, in an environment that was conducive to their tastes, and had a high ol' time.

They paid no consequence, but everyone did.

 

[evenifigoalone]

For the record if I have no problem with this:

I like to look at them from the angle of what can we, the Body of Christ, do to better this situation?

Actually on that point I agree.

But that's not what your original post said, nor did it seem possible to infer that from your original post. Maybe that wasn't your intention, and in that case...well, misunderstandings happen.

 

[Dr. Bob]

If someone has snide, inflammatory and off-topic comments (yeah, I'm talking about Zach) they will find themselves "snipped" of ability to contribute to the BB.

 

[Zaac]

If someone has snide, inflammatory and off-topic comments (yeah, I'm talking about Zach) they will find themselves "snipped" of ability to contribute to the BB.

My comments were no more snide than any of the rest no one seems to have a problem being made against me. And neither was it off topic. It just addresed the topic from what can we do instead of pointing at them. If that "snips" my ability to contribute to the BB, so be it because what it shows is that some of your expectations of "contribution" tend to hinge upondealing with issues just like everybody else in the thread or else it's off topic.

 

[Sapper Woody]

If I am by myself, loud people and cussing do not bother me. I hear it all the time being in the military. But if I'm with my family, I confront people politely, and tell them I don't want my family to hear that. In most cases, this is enough. Per the OP, the police might have needed to be called. In many places, cussing is illegal in public still. Even if it's not, causing a public disturbance is.

 

[Zaac]

If I am by myself, loud people and cussing do not bother me. I hear it all the time being in the military. But if I'm with my family, I confront people politely, and tell them I don't want my family to hear that. In most cases, this is enough. Per the OP, the police might have needed to be called. In many places, cussing is illegal in public still. Even if it's not, causing a public disturbance is.

That's precisely how I think most people respond Sapper. You'd be surprised just how far just speaking in a loving manner will go with some, not all, who are acting like that.

Our response has to be tempered with love and not always emotion. Say a little prayer for the family at your table and then do as you did. It might oen the door to really minister to the folks at the table.

 

[evenifigoalone]

In real life I tend to be very hesitant to say anything negative to people. Part of it is I'm reserved, and part of it is I don't want to cause conflict.
I said I'd ask the staff to ask them to please tone it down because I wouldn't be able to work up the nerve to speak to them myself.