I have always thought it amazing that two people can read the same scripture but arrive at different interpretations. I see Romans 9 as saying something entirely different from you.
Rom 9:15 For he saith to Moses, I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion.
16 So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy.
17 For the scripture saith unto Pharaoh, Even for this same purpose have I raised thee up, that I might shew my power in thee, and that my name might be declared throughout all the earth.
18 Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he will he hardeneth.
19 Thou wilt say then unto me, Why doth he yet find fault? For who hath resisted his will?
20 Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why hast thou made me thus?
21 Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?
22 What if God, willing to shew his wrath, and to make his power known, endured with much longsuffering the vessels of wrath fitted to destruction:
23 And that he might make known the riches of his glory on the vessels of mercy, which he had afore prepared unto glory,
You notice I highlighted "of the same lump" in verse 21. I think that is significant and almost always overlooked. What this is saying is that all men are created equal. God does not create one man to be saved, and create another to be lost. And if you closely examine these scriptures you will see that.
First, who is this passage speaking of? Pharoah of Egypt. Did not God give Pharoah numerous chances to repent and let the children of Israel go free?
With every plague Pharoah called for Moses and asked him to end the plague with the promise he would set the Hebrews free. And each time Moses through God did end the plague. But instead of Pharoah being thankful, as soon as he saw things were good again, he hardened his own heart and refused to set the Hebrews free.
Exo 8:15 But when Pharaoh saw that there was respite, he hardened his heart, and hearkened not unto them; as the LORD had said.
Who does this verse say hardened Pharoah's heart? Pharoah.
At one point Pharoah seemed to repent and admit his sin.
Exo 9:27 And Pharaoh sent, and called for Moses and Aaron, and said unto them, I have sinned this time: the LORD is righteous, and I and my people are wicked.
But Moses knew better and answered:
Exo 9:30 But as for thee and thy servants, I know that ye will not yet fear the LORD God.
And, exactly as Moses had predicted, once again Pharoah hardened his own heart.
Exo 9:34 And when Pharaoh saw that the rain and the hail and the thunders were ceased, he sinned yet more, and hardened his heart, he and his servants.
35 And the heart of Pharaoh was hardened, neither would he let the children of Israel go; as the LORD had spoken by Moses.
Again, we see that Pharoah himself hardened his own heart. And how could Pharoah sin if it was God's will that his heart be hardened? Pharoah would be doing the will of God.
What you fail to understand is that God knew from the beginning that Pharoah would resist him and NEVER repent.
Exo 3:19 And I am sure that the king of Egypt will not let you go, no, not by a mighty hand.
So, that is important. God selected Pharoah to show his wrath. But this was not wrong. He did not cause Pharoah to be proud and stubborn, but he knew beforehand that Pharoah would never listen. So Pharoah was fit for destruction by his own sin.
God does not destroy the innocent. But God brings justice on those who refuse to repent.
Rom 9:15 For he saith to Moses, I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion.
16 So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy.
17 For the scripture saith unto Pharaoh, Even for this same purpose have I raised thee up, that I might shew my power in thee, and that my name might be declared throughout all the earth.
18 Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he will he hardeneth.
19 Thou wilt say then unto me, Why doth he yet find fault? For who hath resisted his will?
20 Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why hast thou made me thus?
21 Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?
22 What if God, willing to shew his wrath, and to make his power known, endured with much longsuffering the vessels of wrath fitted to destruction:
23 And that he might make known the riches of his glory on the vessels of mercy, which he had afore prepared unto glory,
You notice I highlighted "of the same lump" in verse 21. I think that is significant and almost always overlooked. What this is saying is that all men are created equal. God does not create one man to be saved, and create another to be lost. And if you closely examine these scriptures you will see that.
First, who is this passage speaking of? Pharoah of Egypt. Did not God give Pharoah numerous chances to repent and let the children of Israel go free?
With every plague Pharoah called for Moses and asked him to end the plague with the promise he would set the Hebrews free. And each time Moses through God did end the plague. But instead of Pharoah being thankful, as soon as he saw things were good again, he hardened his own heart and refused to set the Hebrews free.
Exo 8:15 But when Pharaoh saw that there was respite, he hardened his heart, and hearkened not unto them; as the LORD had said.
Who does this verse say hardened Pharoah's heart? Pharoah.
At one point Pharoah seemed to repent and admit his sin.
Exo 9:27 And Pharaoh sent, and called for Moses and Aaron, and said unto them, I have sinned this time: the LORD is righteous, and I and my people are wicked.
But Moses knew better and answered:
Exo 9:30 But as for thee and thy servants, I know that ye will not yet fear the LORD God.
And, exactly as Moses had predicted, once again Pharoah hardened his own heart.
Exo 9:34 And when Pharaoh saw that the rain and the hail and the thunders were ceased, he sinned yet more, and hardened his heart, he and his servants.
35 And the heart of Pharaoh was hardened, neither would he let the children of Israel go; as the LORD had spoken by Moses.
Again, we see that Pharoah himself hardened his own heart. And how could Pharoah sin if it was God's will that his heart be hardened? Pharoah would be doing the will of God.
What you fail to understand is that God knew from the beginning that Pharoah would resist him and NEVER repent.
Exo 3:19 And I am sure that the king of Egypt will not let you go, no, not by a mighty hand.
So, that is important. God selected Pharoah to show his wrath. But this was not wrong. He did not cause Pharoah to be proud and stubborn, but he knew beforehand that Pharoah would never listen. So Pharoah was fit for destruction by his own sin.
God does not destroy the innocent. But God brings justice on those who refuse to repent.