Goodday, everyone! My name is Jason, and I'm brand-spankin' new to this board. Have been lurking for quite some time, and just recently thought I'd join in on the discussion.
Concerning the dress issue, I had a pastor once who said it best. When asked by an older woman during a business meeting, "Pastor, how much makeup should a Christian woman wear?" His response to her was this: "Ma'am, in a world that's going to hell, I really don't have the desire nor the concern to worry about your Mabeline. My motto's always been, if you need it, dab it on!" Of course this was said in a joking manner, but he was serious.
I recently moved my family from a Fundie (and I said it that way not to condescend, but simply because I don't want to type it all the way out) So. Bapt. church here in Colorado Springs, partly because of the dress issue. I am 27, and when I turned 24 I was elected a deacon in the church. God has also gifted me with a very good singing voice. Anyway, if one was to participate in the worship services, the men had to wear coat and tie and the women long dresses with pantie hose. If I was to assist in the Lord's supper, I had to wear a full suit, not even slacks and sport jacket/tie. Realize, I had been raised Fundie and So. Bapt. my entire life in Lawton, OK. As I have aged, and especially once I became a deacon, I really began to realize that the things we as Christians, whether it be Bapt, Meth, Pent, or whatever, the things we continually concern ourselves with and attempt to project upon others truly have absolutely NO eternal consequence. As such, are they things we should worry about? Absolutely not. We now attend the Woodmen Valley Chapel here in Colorado Springs, which has an average weekend attendance of over 6,000 people. Last year alone, the church baptist over 350 people who came to know Christ through it's ministries. During services, the are people from every walk of life and economic status. Some wear suits, others wear jeans, still others dress in shorts and t-shirt during the summer. The pastor generally will wear slacks and a polo, because that's what he likes. Me, sometimes I will wear jeans, other times khakis, but hardly ever a suit. For me, I just feel like a stiff in a suit. And again, that's just me. I wore them for several years after college before going into law enforcement.
I saw another thread on here regarding a pastor who wears a Hawaiian shirt in the pulpit. Some of the responses had to do with the professionalism he should display behind the pulpit, how a suit demonstrates authoritativeness. Folks, the authority does not come from a man's dress, it comes from the Word of God. If the pastor is prayed up and right with God, he will have all power and authority under heaven and earth. There's a church here in COlorado Springs called Rocky Mountain Calvary Church. The pastor, Brian Michaels, wears a Hawaiian shirt every week. He also does not have a high school diploma, and has never been to seminary (something So. Bapt. hold SO rigidly important, for some reason. It's definitely not a Biblical reason, but more of a traditional thing, I supposed.) ANyway, He was called by God into the ministry at a young age, and now his church averages over 3,000 on a weekend, and is saving people and enhancing other's walk with Christ.
I don't know how many of you have ever lived in or been to COlorado Springs, but this town is very laid back in regards to formality and the such. ALl of the So. Bapt. churches, save for two, that years ago were powerful, are now fractions of their former selves because of their rigidity and refusal to comform to societal changes. Remember, if the changes that occur in society don't negate or go against scripture, then there's nothing wrong with them. Anyway, all of the growing and powerful churches are the ones that have done away with formality and fundamentalism and have made the "In a world going to hell, we don't have time worry about your _________________ (insert Christian law here), and because of it, those who were formerly unchurched or backslidden are now seeing they can be a part of a church where one's relationship with Christ is the important thing, not their comformity to a particular traditional, non-Blblical creed.
Just my two cents...