Herald, it is relevant in that the OP assumes Calvinism is predicated on a fatalistic view of the decrees of God which some insist means Calvinists are determinists. I think you will find historically many good Calvinist
Baptists believed that God decreed whatsoever is to come to pass AND that man does what he does according to the pleasure of his will, not according to a fatalistic externally determined cause that renders his culpability void.
Gill - The Cause of God and Truth
IV. It is argued, that "if the will of man is determined to one,
namely, to that which is good, by the grace of God; or to that
which is evil, through the disability contracted by the fall; this must
take away the freedom of men’s actions: since then, there is no
place for election and deliberation; it being certain, that the liberty
of man must be deliberative, if it doth choose, there being no
election without deliberation." To which I reply; Supposing choice
necessary to free actions, a determination of the will to some one
thing, is not contrary to choice, for the human will of Christ, and
the will of angels and glorified saints, are determined only to that
which is good; and yet they both choose and do that good freely.
And again, all that is done freely, is not done with deliberation and
consultation; a man that falls into water, and is in danger of being
drowned, spying something he can lay hold on to save himself,
does not stay to consult and deliberate what he had best to do; ut immediately, without any deliberation or consultation, lays
hold upon it; and yet this he does freely. Besides, neither the
disability of man, nor the efficacious influences of grace, at all
hinder the freedom of human actions. A wicked man, who is
under the strongest bias, power, and dominion of his lusts, acts
freely in his fulfilling of them; as does also a good man, in doing
what is spiritually good; and never more so, than when he is
under the most powerful influences of divine grace.
Spurgeon God's Will and Man's Will
Whoever wishes, let him take the free gift of the water of life.” According to this and many other texts the Scripture where man is addressed as a being having a will, it appears clear enough that men are not saved by compulsion. When a man receives the grace of Christ, he does not receive it against his will. No man will be pardoned while he abhors the forgiveness. No man will have joy in the Lord if he says, “I do not wish to rejoice in the Lord.” Do not think that anybody will have the angels pushing them behind into the gates of heaven. They must go there freely or else they will never go there at all. We are not saved against our will; nor again, mark you, is the will taken away; for God does not come and convert the intelligent free-agent into a machine. When he turns the slave into a child, it is not by plucking out of him the will which he possesses. We are as free under grace as ever we were under sin; no, we were slaves when we were under sin, and when the Son makes us free we are free indeed, and we are never free before. Erskine, in speaking of his own conversion, says he ran to Christ “with full consent against his will,” by which he meant it was against his old will; against his will as it was till Christ came, but when Christ came, then he came to Christ with full consent, and was as willing to be saved-no, that is a cold word-as delighted, as pleased, as transported to receive Christ as if grace had not constrained him. But we do hold and teach that though the will of man is not ignored, and men are not saved against their wills, that the work of the Spirit, which is the effect of the will of God, is to change the human will, and so make men willing in the day of God's power, working in them to will to do his own good pleasure.
J.P. Boyce Abstract of Systematic Theology
The Scriptures recognize both the sovereignty of God, and the free agency, and accountability of man. Consciousness assures us of the latter. The nature of God, as has just been shown, proves the former. The Bible makes no attempt to reconcile the two. Paul even declines to discuss the subject, saying, "Nay but, oh man, who art thou that repliest against God?" Rom. 9:20. The two facts are plainly revealed. They cannot be contradictory, they must be reconcilable. That we cannot point out the harmony between them is a proof, only of our ignorance, and limited capacity, and not that both are not true. It is certain, however, that, whatever may be the influences which God exercises, or permits, to secure the fulfilment of his purposes, he always acts in accordance with the nature, and especially with the laws of mind he has bestowed upon man. It is equally true, that his action is in full accord with that justice, and benevolence, which are such essential attributes of God himself.
The only apparent advantage is that God is supposed thus not to interfere with their free agency, so as to destroy their accountability. But we have seen that, so far as the permissive decree is concerned, the knowledge of the event is as effective in making it certain, and in influencing the free agent, as would be any decree, purpose or plan of God. It is only when the decree is effective, and introduces the means for its accomplishment, that the free agency is affected. In this case, God does not destroy the free agency, although he exerts an influence towards the result. But that God is thus active, sometimes, as in his gracious influences upon men, is held as firmly by Arminians as Calvinists. In all such gracious acts, both parties claim that he is both merciful and just. Calvinists extend these no further than do Arminians, for they deny as strenuously as others, that God acts effectively to lead men to wicked decisions and deeds. So far as the nature of God's actions upon free agents is concerned, both parties agree. But the Arminian theory, in asserting foreknowledge without purpose, and in alleging that the foreknowledge is all that there is in God, is contrary to the relations of God's will to his knowledge, as well as to the statements of Scripture about the decrees of God; and while it leaves the event equally certain, supposes fully as much influence over the will of the creature, and has equal difficulty in reconciling the free agency, and consequent responsibility, with the inevitable certainty of the event.
New Hampshire Confession of Faith
We believe that Election is the eternal purpose of God, according to which he graciously regenerates, sanctifies, and saves sinners; that being perfectly consistent with the free agency of man, it comprehends all the means in connection with the end; that it is a most glorious display of God's sovereign goodness, being infinitely free, wise, holy, and unchangeable; that it utterly excludes boasting, and promotes humility, love, prayer, praise, trust in God, and active imitation of his free mercy; that it encourages the use of means in the highest degree; that it may be ascertained by its effects in all who truly believe the gospel; that it is the foundation of Christian assurance; and that to ascertain it with regard to ourselves demands and deserves the utmost diligence.