How appropiate is it 4 a Pastor to....

we're not being judgemental, El Guero.......but thanks for the support!

 

its not a judgemental thing at all, at least not on my part. I have been in that situation. And I also know that none of us is exempt. However, I fear that you have gotten upset because you didnt like our opinions.

 

If she waves at ya' - I am getting out of the way . . .



PS - ya' had some good advice in there!

 

You fear much more than you need to. Have you known me to not correct someone that needed correcting? With or without fear of being ridiculed by others on the board for taking a stand?



Tho't so.

Since I didn't correct anyone, they should feel safe . . . at least from my POV. I cannot do anything about guilty consciences . . .

Did I forget to say that I had learned alot from ya'll's advice? I apologize - I did learn something.

Thanks!!!

:saint:

 

Oops, ElGuero, Did you think that was aimed at you?? Sorry, its for Phillipians121

You aint gotta duck.....i can hit you with the 'maters better that way

 

I am not wondering why he said it. Unless who he said it too does not want trouble she better get away from him. There is nothing hidden that shall not be revealed and believe me it will come out in time. This is to the OP. :tonofbricks:

 

You avoid the subject when it becomes personal(the issue of sex), when it leaves the pages of scripture, and him telling you about his sex life.
What perpetrator!? I am protecting no one. You asked if this was appropriate and I answered no it is not. But neither is it appropriate for you to discuss it with him and continue that discussion on more then one occasion. You might get caught up the first time, but to continue it more then once?
If all he has done is talk about sex, and you let him. Did you not see it was wrong to be talking about sex with another man? especially when it left the bounds of the scripture.
And yes, I know exactly what I would do, I will not talk about a mans sex life with him. Final answer, no ifs ands or buts.

 

While it is clear that this Pastors behavior is inappropriate what is unclear is what motivates him to do it. And it would take a long conversation with him to figure that out.

The Pastor should receive counseling from a group of other Pastors.

What we should not do is rush to judgements about removing him from the pulpit. This is a carnal reaction and not supported by scripture.

There is no one here who has enough info to make any determination about his motives, or how it should be handled.

Any plan to address this situation should include the following:

1. The healing of the marriage.

2. Repentence of ungodly behavior

3. Restitution made to all those hurt by ungodly behavior

4. Restoration of those who repent of misbehavior

5. The Pastor may need continuous counseling and accountability to a group of Pastors for the purpose of restoration.

6. Forgivness offered by all parties involved once repentence has been achieved. This means to treat them as if it never happened.

Unless it is discovered that the Pastor is sexual predator, then snatching him out of the Pastorate is inappropriate. So long as he is wiling to be accountable to a group of Pastors.

 

So if you already knew, why did you come on here and ask?

 

Maybe we missed the intention of the original post. I think everyone would agree that the pastor spoke to you inappropriately. I thought the whole point of this thread was that you wanted to know what folks thought about it.

 

For some reason the words of a movie keep coming to mind:

"You want the truth? You can't handle the truth!!!!"

 

Pastor, you are a pastor. What do you think about the issue? Should she go tell someone or just let it go?

 

I don't think it matters because someone already has their mind made up and just wants others to justify it for her.

 

You aren't interested in help. You have been given a lot of solid thoughts here. Yet you just want to be justified in your own thoughts. Good luck with that.

 

you cant on a public board, just through PM.

I feel sarcasm and judgement coming from you when you dont think we agree with you, as per the perpetrator comments, and those stemming from you saying you have a great relationship with your husband, but then you have negative things to say about him too. We who have been here for years tend to be skeptical when a newbie comes along and starts being sharp tongued right off the bat. Did you not ask for advice? We have given it and you are mad.

Who has said something bad about SBC?