How appropiate is it 4 a Pastor to....

huh?

Could you link the thread where another poster stated that SBC was sarcastic and rude?

Goodness, no reason to get all uptight.

 

Before you ignore me, can you show me a poster that has called me sarcastic?

 

Hold up here. Go back and reread your first few posts. I quoted one a page back. You asked if you should bring this to the attention of someone. Most of us have said yes. You also asked if it was appropriate what he did and everyone to my recollection has said no. What else do you want?

We just saw holes in the story is all. I never said you claimed to have issues in the imtimacy dept. You are the one that keeps hammering that.

 

Actually, Pastor is one who give's fairly good and sound advice. I find him fairly mature and wise for a man his age and know the Lord has great use for him. Don't take this wrong, but you made a bad choice by letting your Pastors behavior persist for a year and you are making a bad choice again with Pastor.

I fear you will meet with the Elder expecting a particular reaction from him. If you don't see that reaction you will move to another Church. i think the pattern is you are not looking for sound advice, you are looking for confirmation what you think is right. I pray you find someone you trust who can give you truth instead of confirmation that you will accept.

 

Women understand women better than men because they have been in the same situations and what I see is inappropriate behavior on the pastor's part and enabling (and encouragement - intended or not) on yours.

The first time a man talks about sex to a woman who is not his wife - shame on him. The second time he talks to that same woman about sex - shame on her.

If it had been me and I wanted to help, I would have talked to the wife, not the husband. It sounds like she needs help with a husband like that. I can see why she is not responsive to him.

You stopped going to the church a month ago - when the pastor started staying home.

You are never going back to that church.

What is the purpose of this thread?

As many others have said. You have your mind made up and already knew the answer to your OP before you posted the question.

You were looking for some validation that it was all his fault and when you didn't get that, you became defensive.

Sorry, I'm not gentler, but I cut through the forest to the tree and you need to get this. You acted like none of the rest of us were attractive enough to have had this happen so we don't understand.

Oh yes, we understand all too well. That's why we can see through a story with holes in it and that's why we can recognize inappropriate behavior right off the bat and FLEE...

 

I really did think that that post was (1) out of character, you hit more than you miss, but (2) it followed Bapmom's comment . . .

Well, I got thrown for a loop!

I didn't think you guys were being all that judgemental . . . ya'll are usually the nice ones on the board.

 

I have not read the whole thread - it grew pages while I was reading it.

But, one thing I have thought of from my experience (no I am not married), pastors sometimes need friends. The innapropriatness of this pastor's comments may have more to do with his needing friends than his attempt to lure a woman into his trap . . .

Just my IMHO.

 

OK.

There have been good suggestions and bad suggestions.

But, throwing out the baby with the bath water is not what is needed.

I did not challenge your version of the story, but with regards to your reaction - I must say that your reaction is a bit strong.

 

What did I miss?

You take the advice of an author, McCroon (sp) who gets rich from his book, but you call men and women that take of their time to help you (and whom I have deep respect for) "Trouble Makers"?

That was just plain rude: add me to your block then.

Out here.


http://www.baptistboard.com/showthread.php?t=33720&page=8

 

Let's wrap this up folks. This thread will be closed at 10:00 p.m. eastern time tonight, unless by moderator's discretion it needs to be closed sooner.

 

And thats what you've been given you just don't like it.
I also would like to see a link to a thread where someone said that about pastorsbc. Because I don't recall seeing it on this thread.
If you were going to quit going to church why didn't you do it while the "perpetrator" was there, why did you wait till he was gone?
A strong faith does not quit going to church, it says I'll over come whatever satan throws at me.
You can block people from sedning you a private message but you can not block them from responsing to your posts.

 

is anyone other then me finding this attitude and anger familiar?

 

:tonofbricks: :BangHead:
Yep!

 

If that is the case, then her reaction would make more sense . . .