How do I deal with my past church?

[drivenfuture]

I believe I've posted before regarding this subject, involving a major falling out with a pastor's family from an AofG church some time ago long story short they broke off their friendship with me and would only allow me back in a limited capacity, despite not knowing if I did anything wrong and their family coming to me and insulting me directly...But I noticed the mother of the family, also a pastor of the church, liked my recent facebook post--basically in the post I basically just shared a thank you to the local reformed baptist church I had been attending over the past 1.5 years that was honestly one of the better churches I've attended. But her liking this bothered me. I have always been open to working things out. While I don't think we necessarily have to go back to the way things were, I also think the Bible calls us to reconcile with fellow believers as long as we're repentant. It just makes it hard when I keep seeing their name pop up but I'm at a loss for what to do or say. If I need to move on, I can't when I see their names on my screen. If they're willing to sort this out, I can't because I've already reached out twice before with no resolution and don't want to come off as harassing. I have no idea how I should regard them...as fellow brothers/sisters in Christ as well as an authority figure or false teacher. I dearly loved them, but this whole situation has completely shattered me left and right and I don't know what to do.
If need be, I can explain the original story through PM.

 

[Scarlett O.]

Pray for them, always behave in a Christ-like manner, stop putting so much importance in social media - real relationship are face to face, and move on.

 

[drivenfuture]

Pray for them, always behave in a Christ-like manner, stop putting so much importance in social media - real relationship are face to face, and move on.

The relationships were face to face until the relationship ended...believe me, the relationship would be face to face if I could, but they're not open to that last time I tried. As for moving on, like I said, seeing them on social media prevents me from moving on, I'm torn between keeping the lines open and just blocking them on all accounts; I have tried what I can to maintain the relationship but they still refuse, so I don't know what to do.

 

[canadyjd]

I read your first OP. You are assuming far too much from a simple “like” on a post. Don’t give it another thought. Leave these folks alone. It will end badly if you don’t.

Peace to you

 

[drivenfuture]

I read your first OP. You are assuming far too much from a simple “like” on a post. Don’t give it another thought. Leave these folks alone. It will end badly if you don’t.

Peace to you

All I'm saying is seeing them liking my posts and the sort is preventing me from moving on.

 

[canadyjd]

All I'm saying is seeing them liking my posts and the sort is preventing me from moving on.

No, it isn’t. You have the responsibility to end this. Ignore them, block them, throw the phone in the trash, whatever it takes.

I believe you should seek professional mental health counseling for your obsessive behavior. It will help you make the right decisions.

Peace to you

 

[alexander284]

All I'm saying is seeing them liking my posts and the sort is preventing me from moving on.

I'm a former Jehovah's Witness, so I believe I can relate to your situation.

As hard as this will be, it is time to simply "walk away."

And know this: while you're spending all this time thinking about them, they're not thinking about you!

 

[drivenfuture]

Referring to mental health in America is not wise. They tell you religion is not allowed as it is a trigger, but the one I went to tried teaching Islam when they did Yoga. It's very anti-Christian. Even Christian counselors are not wise--one famous Christian counselor is Henry Cloud--who says God is not with us post-conversion, even though Emmanuel literally means God with us. I know this is a case-by-case basis, but really the Bible should be our counselor, not potential heretics.

 

[canadyjd]

Referring to mental health in America is not wise. They tell you religion is not allowed as it is a trigger, but the one I went to tried teaching Islam when they did Yoga. It's very anti-Christian. Even Christian counselors are not wise--one famous Christian counselor is Henry Cloud--who says God is not with us post-conversion, even though Emmanuel literally means God with us. I know this is a case-by-case basis, but really the Bible should be our counselor, not potential heretics.

Based on your previous OP, you are demonstrating obsessive behavior toward this family. I’ve said all that I care to at this point.

The only thing I can add is this; if you don’t leave these people alone, I expect you to receive a restraining order at some point.

Peace to you

 

[drivenfuture]

uhhhh? I haven't contacted them in forever. The issue here is not me contacting them...it's them contacting me, or orbiting me would be a better way to put it. I am NOT the one doing the reaching out here.

 

[StefanM]

Referring to mental health in America is not wise. They tell you religion is not allowed as it is a trigger, but the one I went to tried teaching Islam when they did Yoga. It's very anti-Christian. Even Christian counselors are not wise--one famous Christian counselor is Henry Cloud--who says God is not with us post-conversion, even though Emmanuel literally means God with us. I know this is a case-by-case basis, but really the Bible should be our counselor, not potential heretics.

As one who has had extensive experience under the care of both psychiatrists and counselors, I can say with certainty that generally this is false. I don't know enough about Henry Cloud to make any judgment, but I've never had a counselor recommend that I reject faith. In fact, it has been encouraged at times.

If they are talking about your obsession with this situation, then, yes, they may discourage you from continuing on this path, but that's not a rejection of religion entirely.

Bottom line: Defriend these people on social media. Get help. You are torturing yourself needlessly.

Please contact a mental health professional.

 

[alexander284]

Referring to mental health in America is not wise. They tell you religion is not allowed as it is a trigger, but the one I went to tried teaching Islam when they did Yoga. It's very anti-Christian. Even Christian counselors are not wise--one famous Christian counselor is Henry Cloud--who says God is not with us post-conversion, even though Emmanuel literally means God with us. I know this is a case-by-case basis, but really the Bible should be our counselor, not potential heretics.

I totally disagree. Are you not familiar with Dr. James Dobson?

 

[alexander284]

Referring to mental health in America is not wise. They tell you religion is not allowed as it is a trigger, but the one I went to tried teaching Islam when they did Yoga. It's very anti-Christian. Even Christian counselors are not wise--one famous Christian counselor is Henry Cloud--who says God is not with us post-conversion, even though Emmanuel literally means God with us. I know this is a case-by-case basis, but really the Bible should be our counselor, not potential heretics.

You're entitled to your opinion, of course, but I am not in agreement!

 

[alexander284]

As one who has had extensive experience under the care of both psychiatrists and counselors, I can say with certainty that generally this is false. I don't know enough about Henry Cloud to make any judgment, but I've never had a counselor recommend that I reject faith. In fact, it has been encouraged at times.

If they are talking about your obsession with this situation, then, yes, they may discourage you from continuing on this path, but that's not a rejection of religion entirely.

Bottom line: Defriend these people on social media. Get help. You are torturing yourself needlessly.

Please contact a mental health professional.

"You took the words right out of my mouth!"

 

[utilyan]

 

[drivenfuture]

uhhh I don't know where you got this idea from. I don't have any Muslim enemies...I simply said my mental health ward tried to indoctrinate me into Islam after telling me religious talk was not allowed. Even so, loving our enemies doesn't mean embracing their teaching.

 

[drivenfuture]

As one who has had extensive experience under the care of both psychiatrists and counselors, I can say with certainty that generally this is false. I don't know enough about Henry Cloud to make any judgment, but I've never had a counselor recommend that I reject faith. In fact, it has been encouraged at times.

If they are talking about your obsession with this situation, then, yes, they may discourage you from continuing on this path, but that's not a rejection of religion entirely.

Bottom line: Defriend these people on social media. Get help. You are torturing yourself needlessly.

Please contact a mental health professional.

I should mention I saw mental health for several months after the falling out. Nobody is telling me to renounce Jesus, but they are telling me it is a trigger for other people and need to keep it to myself.

 

[drivenfuture]

As one who has had extensive experience under the care of both psychiatrists and counselors, I can say with certainty that generally this is false. I don't know enough about Henry Cloud to make any judgment, but I've never had a counselor recommend that I reject faith. In fact, it has been encouraged at times.

If they are talking about your obsession with this situation, then, yes, they may discourage you from continuing on this path, but that's not a rejection of religion entirely.

Bottom line: Defriend these people on social media. Get help. You are torturing yourself needlessly.

Please contact a mental health professional.

they won't tell you to reject faith, they will encourage you to seek your faith if you've told them your religion, but they don't differentiate; they work from a mindset of "do whats best for you," mentality in some way shape or form. Sure there might be some good counselors out there, and I do believe there is some benefit, but by and large I think it's heretical.

 

[utilyan]

uhhh I don't know where you got this idea from. I don't have any Muslim enemies...I simply said my mental health ward tried to indoctrinate me into Islam after telling me religious talk was not allowed. Even so, loving our enemies doesn't mean embracing their teaching.

 

[drivenfuture]

So, as per the suggestion of some here, I unfriended them completely....lo and behold a week later they message me saying I need to unblock them and re-add them so the church doesn't ask them what happened. now what do I do?