Rom 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. If i question God about every thing that he does in my life, where is my faith that i am supposed to believe he won't put on me more than i can bare. Should i question God if i lose a love one, or do i believe that death comes to everyone alike and we don't have a promise that we will live to a ripe old age. He causeth the sunshine and the rain to fall on the just as well as the unjust. If God is Lord of my life then he is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path. Either i have put my trust in him or i haven't. What did Christ tell Thomas? You see and believe but more blessed is he that seeth not, yet believeth. Shall i reprove God by my questions when something goes wrong ? Shall my un-belief instruct God unto contention? Be not rash with thy mouth, and let not thine heart be hasty to utter anything before God: For God is in heaven, and thou upon earth: therefore let thy words be few, Ecc 5:2.
God did not tell us to question about everything. Losing a loved one is not a trial per se, as it happens to us all. But you can not ignore (well, I guess you can, because you did not respond) that God sends trials and expects us to learn from Him be asking for wisdom. You seem to think you have God in your little box, but he is bigger than your opinions. Furthermore, God expects us to come to Him when we battle temptations, which, btw, is the same Greek word for trials in James. Here is what He tells us to do there:
Hebrews 4:14-16 (HCSB)
14 Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens—Jesus the Son of God—let us hold fast to the confession.
15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but One who has been tested in every way as we are, yet without sin.
16 Therefore let us approach the throne of grace with boldness, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us at the proper time.
You seem to be sitting in judgement of anyone that has doubts, or wonders why, or has problems with faith, but God does not, praise His Holy Name. God lets us know that He is approachable, and He is full of grace, mercy and wisdom, and He is more than ready to share it with all those who will ask in faith. Furthermore, God has promised help for us when we don't know how to pray, or what to do: Romans 8:26-30 (HCSB)
26 In the same way the Spirit also joins to help in our weakness, because we do not know what to pray for as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with unspoken groanings.
27 And He who searches the hearts knows the Spirit’s mind-set, because He intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.
28 We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God: those who are called according to His purpose.
29 For those He foreknew He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, so that He would be the firstborn among many brothers.
30 And those He predestined, He also called; and those He called, He also justified; and those He justified, He also glorified.