Yes & I suppose we can argue it till we are both blue in the face but I believe that if every true Calvinist was to be interviewed, they would claim that the other position is not exclusively God centered but is distorted in the direction of self.....at least I hold to that. So your point is very valid "God still in control, just that he has chosen to allow us free will to a degree to decide final destiny! This way of believing supplies exactly what todays evangelicalism demands....a gospel that preserves a determinative role for personal choice.
we are NOT arguing here, as I DO hold to God having a divine election choice going on, that He grants to us eternal life in Christ by act of His will, just saying that those would be what an Arminian would tend to hold to!