I would say you have an understanding of Calvinism that is based on a caricature. I don't know if the Puritans would have known what you were talking about if you told them they believed in the TULIP. And the worst attack I ever had on this board was from a Calvinist after I pointed out how the WCF did indeed say that men can reject the call of God and that it was in the section on the "general" call. I have said before that the modern shallow internet Calvinist has read a few articles and is good at debating the TULIP but has no breadth of knowledge of how practicing Calvinists preached and taught because they haven't bothered to read much. What I said about Martyn Lloyd Jones is true and you can look up and listen to that sermon in 5 minutes, in his own words. Do you know that Owen, in his section on the Holy Spirit says that men can, on their own, before any regenerative work of the Holy Spirit, by using the means available to them, in their current state, increase their chance of being saved? Edwards, in several of his sermons pleads and reasons with people to repent and come to Christ. Horatius Bonar has a booklet called "Words to Winners of Souls". And none of these even touch Spurgeon. If it doesn't fit your view of Calvinism I'm sorry, but you need to read more. Phil Johnson, who is the heir apparent of John MacArthur has articles talking about this very thing. It's not something I came up with.