Brian,
That was a good argument, and really, I agree with you. There is what is called God's permissive will. I believe this is meant that God under certain circumstance will allow men to do evil for his purpose.
A great example of this (in my opinion) is Pharaoh. The Calvinists like to quote Romans 9 that God raised up Pharoah simply to destroy him.
Rom 9:17 For the scripture saith unto Pharaoh, Even for this same purpose have I raised thee up, that I might shew my power in thee, and that my name might be declared throughout all the earth.
18 Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he will he hardeneth.
19 Thou wilt say then unto me, Why doth he yet find fault? For who hath resisted his will?
20 Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why hast thou made me thus?
21 Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?
22 What if God, willing to shew his wrath, and to make his power known, endured with much longsuffering the vessels of wrath fitted to destruction:
The Calvinists love this passage and argue that God has a perfect right to mold one man to believe to show his mercy, and mold another man to not believe to show his wrath. But I disagree with this interpretation.
OK, we know that unbelief is sin. And we know that God never tempts any man to sin (James 1:13-14).
I believe in Romans 9 when God says "even for this same purpose have I raised thee up" he is not saying he caused Pharoah to be an unbeliever. What I believe he is saying is that because God already knew that Pharaoh would never believe he raised up Pharaoh to prominence. This verse does not say God caused Pharaoh to sin, it says it "raised him up". That is a very important difference that should be noted.
Exo 3:19 And I am sure that the king of Egypt will not let you go, no, not by a mighty hand.
20 And I will stretch out my hand, and smite Egypt with all my wonders which
I will do in the midst thereof: and after that he will let you go.
This was spoken to Moses before he went down to confront Pharaoh. And God said he already knows Pharaoh would not let the children of Israel go, even with a mighty hand which I believe speaks of the many plagues God brought on Egypt.
But the Calvinists will say God hardened Pharaoh's heart. And the scriptures do say that several places.
Exo 4:21 And the LORD said unto Moses, When thou goest to return into Egypt, see that thou do all those wonders before Pharaoh, which I have put in thine hand: but I will harden his heart, that he shall not let the people go.
But now we have a problem, for if God caused Pharoah to harden his heart, then God is the author of sin. This contradicts James 1:13-14.
But when you dig deeper, you see the scriptures say Pharaoh hardened his own heart.
Exo 8:32 And Pharaoh hardened his heart at this time also, neither would he let the people go.
Exo 9:34 And when Pharaoh saw that the rain and the hail and the thunders were ceased, he sinned yet more, and hardened his heart, he and his servants.
So, which is it? Did God harden Pharaoh's heart, or did Pharaoh harden his own heart??
The answer? Both. God did harden Pharaoh's heart but not in the way that Calvinist's think. God hardened Pharaoh's heart simply by confronting him. Look what Pharaoh said when Moses first approached him.
Exo 5:2 And Pharaoh said, Who is the LORD, that I should obey his voice to let Israel go? I know not the LORD, neither will I let Israel go.
Look at the arrogance of Pharaoh here. Why, he was Pharaoh, a descendant of the gods! He says he does not know the LORD and neither will he let Israel go. And he said more:
Exo 5:6 And Pharaoh commanded the same day the taskmasters of the people, and their officers, saying,
7 Ye shall no more give the people straw to make brick, as heretofore: let them go and gather straw for themselves.
8 And the tale of the bricks, which they did make heretofore, ye shall lay upon them; ye shall not diminish ought thereof: for they be idle; therefore they cry, saying, Let us go and sacrifice to our God.
9 Let there more work be laid upon the men, that they may labour therein; and let them not regard vain words.
Look how cruel Pharaoh was. Without hesitation he made the work of the Hebrews impossible. And he called God's word "vain words"
So, Pharoah was already very arrogant and obstinate. When Moses and Aaron spoke God's word before Pharaoh, his reaction was to become even more obstinate and rebellious.
And this is really quite normal and shown by experience, even at this forum. How often do we see posts turn into slugfests where two who disagree start out friendly enough, but in the end are calling each other names? This is human nature. Man does not like to be proven wrong, man does not like to be dictated to. So when God commanded Pharaoh to let the children of Israel go, Pharaoh became very angry and obstinate. The sin was Pharaoh's and already present in him, God simply brought it out and made it obvious.
So, God did not cause Pharaoh to harden his heart against his will. On the contrary, the scriptures say Pharoah hardened his own heart. But God allowed Pharaoh to sin, and even used his sin to display his power and wrath to the world.