modesty?

I look for a good Christian guy who is devoted to God he must have a growing relationship he cannot be dead. When you truly love someone you see them as beautiful no mater what, the way Christ sees us beautiful.
1. Growing Christian
2. Seeks Christ in all they do
3. Willing to pray with me
4. Allows me to be myself
5. Wants lots of kids
6. Lets me be a mother but also do the things that I feel God calling me to do.
7. Has a heart for serving God
Kristen

 

ok i knew this was going to be taken the wrong way

but at the time I was at a loss for words. Kristen put exactly what I trying to say:

I dont want my wife to just be limited to the home and children.

 

Keyword here is "just"

If my wife were to be a "stay at home mom" (i use quotes because i dont know if its politicaly correct) that would be no problem but I would want her to have something else on top of it. It doesnt have to be a job, but a hobby or somthing of the sort. I see my mom and she has just raised us kids and now im out of the house my sister is so busy that shes almost never home and my mom just sits around doing nothing. I dont want that to happen to my wife. I want her to have something else, even if its like yardwork or cross-stiching or somthing.

 

Neither does Prov. 31

 

I feel God calling me into some form of ministry that may allow me to spend more time with my children. Do not get me wrong I love kids I work at a daycare but I do not feel God calling me to be a stay at home mom. I want to run a foster home for abused and abandond teens and that would take a lot of time. That would be mostly done in the home. I want to be active in the school my children go to and be the dress code police and help them understand modesty.
Kristen

 

Ishouldbhappy,

I like that idea. I love staying with them in these formative years, but God has a call on my life, too!

Go for it!

 

Thanks I see how you are with your girls and that is what I would want it to be like
Ki

 

"I dont really think of it as being a "stay at home" mom. I think of it more as a Homemaker.
This is what I want to be. It is a job..no matter what most say, but at the same time you dont ever have to miss out on your children's first steps or first word. You can have a bigger part in your childs life. I feel that God has called me to be a Homemake/Preacher's Wife. "
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Kate, you so perfectly worded what I wanted to say.
If the only thing I did in life were being a wife, homemaker, and mother I would be satisfied.
Now there are other things I enjoy, and I hope to get the chance to teach before I have children, but after that, I want to be there with them. I want to play with them, teach them, be near them for their firsts.
I lived with my mother for the first four years of my life, and she quickly taught me fear, lack of selfworth, how to cry and hide, and finaly bitterness. God had to work that out of me later.
Prehaps it is because of this that I so desire to be a great wife and great mother. I want the man I marry to know I love him second to God, and I want my children to know they are infinatly precious to me. I'm crying as I try to word this so ya'll will understand. I want to be a godly wife, and a loving mother. I will never be able to give them material things, but I can them my heart. I can love them, and take care of them, and be what God would have me be for them.
I understand women can do other things, and that's fine. But her primary concern should be for the family God gives her. She should realize how precious it is.

 

Im glad I have support here on my views I was debating weather i should post how i feel in fear of offending someone.

 

I would have been offended if you would expect your wife to stay at home without any choice.
Kristen

 

I have a friend in our church who got saved and she tried to start dressing modestly, and her parents forbad it.

 

Oh yeah and as for the boys, I have a story to tell you about a friend, he was in Bible College and he began to help pastor at church near his college and there were too girls in the church, Sally and Linda they were both nice girls, Sally was a devoted christian and loved the Lord, then theres Linda was not as faithful to church, and didn't dress as modest as she maybe should, so the lust got him he decided to date Linda and he did. They went on a few dates, and Sally told him that Linda was also seeing this man who was married in the church. Sally was just trying to be a good friend and tell him, he didn't believe her. Well one night Linda just up and ran off with the man who was married. And at that point Nate relized that one who had been modest and serving God and a friend the whole time was Sally, and he asked Sally please forgive him. And they became close and even got married. And live happalily with their 6 sons.

 

I want to be a stay at home mom. However, when my children start school I would want to start working. I think I would go crazy if I sat at home all day by myself. I think whether you stay at home or work should be decided before you are married so there is not any conflict when the child is on the way!