My Daughter

We're still here for you!

I know it's tough. I still turn around sometimes when I check to make sure the girls are all there, and for a split second I'm still looking because there's only three.

That's one joy I really look forward to...holding all of my children at the same time. I thank God for letting us know that it will happen, that we don't have to wonder, that we know we all meet again. It makes life so much better to know this stuff, doesn't it?!

 

Joshua,

You continue to be in our families prayers. I have shared your story with others who you will never know this side of heaven. God has used your faith to touch others. Your story needs to be told and I believe will be used by God for His glory.

Blessings Brother,

Bro Tony

 

Brother,

I think I can speak for others here when I say that you need not be sorry for bringing this up. Talk about it as much and as often as you need to in order to work through it. I also have had a loss like this, and my heart goes out to you and your wife. When people told me "it will take time" I guess I didn't realize how much time that meant. For my dh and I it has been 6 years...but I still think of him. Now it is with less pain. God WILL get you through, but this is still very recent for you, and we are here for you both.

I continue to pray for your comfort and for God's peace and grace to remain with you.

 

Yes, dont apologize for bringing it up. I dont have any answers to your question, though, but I will be rpaying for yall as you hash it out and make your decision.

 

Joshua: The funeral home should provide you with a temporary marker until you decide what you want permanently.

That's what my daughter did because she was unable to afford what she wanted right away.

She had a baby girl that lived 9 days. She would have been 16 this December and my daughter mourns every birthday.

I lost a set of twins 40 years ago and still think of them often.

I don't believe parents were made to outlive their children.

When a child loses a parent, they get over it. When a parent loses a child, I'm not sure they ever get over it completely.

From one who has been there - I am praying for both of you.

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The local retailer for Rock of Ages did my father's headstone two years ago. It was nice work at a reasonable cost.

 

God bless you. Don't feel pressured to make a decision soon. It took us months when our son died at birth years ago.
Regular monument places will work with you in this kind of situation for your budget and other considerations.
In our case, we did not want a flat stone, and we got a small upright one with engravings and design that I picked out.

One of the things that has helped me deal with it is that it is not my job to not ever display emotion or ever mention my son again.
When I want to mention him I do.