You just finished saying that Calvinists adopted the name "Calvinists" affectionately. So why would you get "bent out of shape" about it. When you call a non-Cal an Arminian, as if everyone outside of the Calvinist camp must be an Arminian (you guys ought to know better), you are demeaning and as good as making false accusations. I don't know of any here that are completely Arminian in their theology. I am neither Calvinistic nor Arminian and I don't like to be associated with either camp. I will simply say I am "non-Cal," as many others do.
Many of the Calvinists on the board seem to think that they must label all non-Cals as Arminians as if they have no other choice. To that I reply, they are very shallow in their thinking.
I don't get bent out of shape. I specifically had in mind Arminians who don't like the moniker "Arminian". Actually the free will position held by most Baptists is semi-Pelagian, not Arminian, but Arminian has become synonymous for both positions. Arminian doesn't mean a person buys into all of Arminius' or the Remonstrants doctrine. It means they hold to his view of moral free agency. If they get bent out of shape about the term...well, they get bent out of shape about it. If they are that touchy then maybe they shouldn't be in a debate forum. Plus they don't have to accept the term. I reject the term "exhaustive determinist" but I don't get upset about it. I just dismiss it and mosey along.