Hi Agedman, this is a response to your post #42.
1) If a main point comes with sub-points in scripture, it is unsound to nullify the sub-points because they are not the main point. Thus Matthew 23:13 does indeed teach fallen men were entering heaven but we blocked. Thus they were seeking God but were not under irresistible compulsion.
2) No question that the power to become the "sons of God" (to be born anew) rests totally with the Father. But to whom does God grant the right to become a child of God? Those who believe!! Thus the lost believes before they become a "son of God."
3) John Chapter 1, or anywhere else, does not teach all fallen people have an inability to seek God and trust in Christ. Instead, it says the Light came into the world, but the darkness did not comprehend the light. However, John the Baptist came as a witness, thus some living in the realm of darkness could comprehend. Then John 1 says the true light enlightens every man. It does not say some do not reject Christ after being enlightened, but does indicate some ability to hear and respond in some manner to the gospel of Christ. Finally, verse John 1:12, as many as received Him (or believed in His name)were then given the right to become sons of God.
4) Sequence matters and your sequence does not mesh with scripture. We are chosen through faith in the truth, thus we are believers before we are chosen. We are believers before we are given the right to become children of God. We are saved by grace through faith again teaching if God credits our faith in Christ as righteousness, then God places us in Christ where we are born anew as a new creation.
5) Here is the key question which your view answers incorrectly, "Why are those fallen able to respond to the message while others do not?"
a) Those that hear and learn have not been hardened by God.
b) Those that hear and learn have not been hardened by the practice of sin.
c) Those that hear and learn are "of God" or "of My Sheep" i.e. they believe God and are open to His promised Messiah. They are not "unwilling." They are those that make the field "white for harvest."
6) Your bottom line yet again denies the sequence clearly taught by John 1:12. We are saved by grace through faith, thus faith comes before salvation. We are chosen through faith in the truth, thus faith comes before election. We are given the right to become sons of God after we receive Christ (trust in His name). The evidence is overwhelming.