You left IFB to go to the SBC? I know many who left the IFB and went elsewhere for the same reason. The problem is a man who is pastoring for years and cannot be challenged and never has to answer for what he says is going to throw his opinion in his messages. On most Sundays, long ago, I visited different churches each week and sometimes I would watch the pastors throw out their opinions all the time, and eating with some of the families after, I know they didnt like it.
One pastor I recall spefically said that those not giving to the pot for the new church building would be cursed. He said he would also pray that God would punish them, etc.
Another incident happened approximately 1991 that truly still has me feeling a little guilty. I made a mistake, i think.
I was attending a church that had just watched their pastor of 10+ years drive off and a new pastor was chosen. The pastor had plans to do a one month series on "priorities", which was a good idea. As time went on, and my stay with that church was nearing end, I watched the pastor as he became frustrated with attendance. His messages were extremely dry and without any kind of direction.He fussed at all the people in the church for not doing their share in the Great Commission. I thought most of them were trying to bring people in. The pastor began to use the pulpit for bullying people and was extremely harsh on one family. With only a few weeks before I was to move out into another area, he and I sat and had lunch. I felt bad because I knew he was not going to like what I said. I have never seen someone use so much manipulation, threats, bullying, personal opinion, etc, from the pulpit in all my years.
When he asked me what i thought was wrong with his church, I told him just that. I also added that I thought his messages were more like Sunday School lessons.
A sermon MUST have a proposition, a desired response that the speaker wants from his people. That is what separates preaching from teaching, and this man was definitely not PREACHING.
He was extremely upset with me, but I told him his biggest problem was he did not think he had to answer to anyone and could just steamroll and do what he wanted to. He used the sermon as a chance to lash out and voice his personal pet peeves. Just a disaster, and in a matter of months, he lost the core families of the church and about 18 months after I left, he resigned as pastor.
One thing I stress when I am training preachers is they MUST let the word of God change people. Preach the word and let the Spirit do HIS work. He will convict, etc. Too many pastors try to change the people using the pulpit in the wrong way and also use manipulation and subtle tactics. The smarter and more discerning folks will not stick around long.
The story ends on a sad note. The pastor lost his (very precious) wife and his kids will not have anything to do with him. Now married a third time, I hear, and just living in the world.
He left behind destruction and hurt that left the strongest person in his church so devastated that he does not attend church anymore. Quite a few families have followed suit.
Sad.