Here it is. It is in the 2002 Archives, which anyone should be able to access, but there is a password which may keep the link from working. I'm not sure. Password is 2002. Anyway, I just cut & pasted. Hope that's ok.
For though I be free from all men, yet have I made myself servant unto all, that I might gain the more. And unto the Jews I became as a Jew, that I might gain the Jews; to them that are under the law, as under the law, that I might gain them that are under the law; To them that are without law, as without law, (being not without law to God, but under the law to Christ,) that I might gain them that are without law. To the weak became I as weak, that I might gain the weak: I am made all things to all men, that I might by all means save some. And this I do for the gospel's sake, that I might be partaker thereof with you. I Corinthians 9:18-23
All things to all - what does that mean? Some think it means we should use great flexibility of methods to reach the lost. Some go so far as to suggest that these verses mean we do "whatever it takes" to win the lost (with some coming to the unstated conclusion that the end justifies the means). Some interpretations present Paul as a wishy-washy hypocrite who would use any gimmick to further his cause. An examination of the above verses in their context will reveal quite a different meaning - we must be willing to yield our rights for the sake of the gospel! This will harmonize with the context and the rest of the N. T.
The broad context is the entire letter to the Corinthians (to clarify doctrine and correct error). The letter may be divided into two parts: [1] Chapters 1-6, in which Paul deals with issues reported to him (cf. 1:11 & 5:1); [2] Chapters 7-16, in which Paul deals with questions from the church (see 7:1). These are usually introduced by the words 'now concerning' or 'now touching' (peri de, cf. 7:1; 8:1; 12:1; 16:1,12).
The immediate context is Paul's addressing the question of whether to eat meat offered to idols (Chapters 8-10). He concluded that every Christian had the right (liberty, freedom, power) to buy and eat such meat - it is only meat and an idol is nothing. But the freedom should be given up if it becomes a stumblingblock to a weak brother (8:9-13). Paul was not asking them to do something he was unwilling to do (8:13), and in chapter nine he illustrates the principle with his own practice. In chapter ten, he gives further instruction concerning idolatry, returns to the issue of yielding our rights (10:31-33), and finishes by urging them to follow his example (11:1). He was following Christ's example (cf. Phil. 2:5-8).
Paul's example was that he had given up his rights and privileges in deference to the furtherance of the gospel (cf. 9:23;10:33). In chapter 9:1-18, Paul establishes his right, as an apostle, to some maintenance by the Corinthian church with [1] the example of others, vs. 4-6; [2] the idea of common right, v. 7; [3] the teaching of Scripture, vs. 8-10; [4] the value of things, v. 11; [5] the practice of the Corinthians, v. 12; and [6] the ordinance of the Lord, vs. 13-14. He emphatically states (vs. 12, 15) that he had not used this power (exousia, right, freedom, liberty). He (and Barnabas) had given up this right "lest we should hinder the gospel of Christ."
Placed in context, we see verses 19-23 as Paul's example of this principle. Paul was free - a free citizen (Acts 22:25-28), and a free child of God (Rom. 8:2; Gal. 5:1; John 8:32,36) - yet he had voluntarily become a servant in order to gain as many as possible. Though Paul understood that he was free from the law, he, in his dealings with the Jews, would if necessary lay aside his rights (liberty, freedom) in order to gain Jewish converts (as in Acts 16:1-3). In dealing with the Gentiles, he would not insist on any rights that might hinder his ministry to them (as in Corinth, see I Cor. 9:1-18; cf. III John 7). Likewise, in dealing with weak brothers, he would not force his liberty to their destruction (reread 8:13; cf. Rom. 14:20,21). This he did for the gospel's sake! We should not interpret Paul's meaning according to our own ideas, but by his practice.
These thoughts are followed by Paul's asserting the need for self-discipline (vs. 24-27). A decision to voluntarily lay aside one's rights demands a training regimen that encourages subjection of our wants and needs to the overall goal. The Jews, despite their privileges and advantages (10:1-4), abandoned self-discipline, gave in to their lusts, and brought on themselves judgment and destruction (10:5-13). The Christian is to have no part in idolatrous practices (10:14-21), but is at liberty to purchase and eat meat previously offered to idols (10:25-30). The good of others and the glory of God (10:23,24,31-33) must be the guiding principle. There is an important correlation between 10:32 and 9:19-22. Give none offense (cf. 8:13), neither to the Jews (9:20), nor to the Gentiles (9:21), nor to the church of God (9:21, the weak are brothers - 8:11-13).
Do we have any rights? as Americans? as parents? as church members? as employers and employees? as customers? We have certain rights, and at times should insist that they be maintained (consider Acts 25:10,11). We can apply this text to the relinquishing of these kinds of rights, but the primary consideration is giving up rights or liberties we have as a direct consequence of our status as children of God. Will we insist on our rights even to the detriment and destruction of others? Do we have the self-discipline needed that we on occasion may say, "I defer my rights and privileges to the overall good of the work of God?" Are we willing to give up, if necessary, every right we have and every privilege we enjoy in order to further the gospel? May God help us to become all things to all through sacrificing our rights on the altar, if by all means we might gain some.
The elder at our church who leads bible studies for them(the youth) and organizes all small groups,etc is a very wise man,in his early 30's,with 4 young children. He teaches them expositorally,challenging them to flee youthful lusts and be godly. There is no focus on fluff stuff or CCM or *youth events* but rather they are taught to love God and His Word first. It is a true blessing to see 30 or more jr high and high schoolers who can recite the entire book of James! They did this last year! I was so impressed with the diligence that was displayed in their lives to be able to do this. They do have some fun,too...there is a balance. But,the emphasis is not fun and a short devo.... 
