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Promise rings

Discussion in 'General Baptist Discussions' started by Benjamin, Nov 8, 2006.

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  1. rbell

    rbell Active Member

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    OUCH. Good point :applause: but OUCH. :eek:

    If it's all the same to ya'll I think we should stick with rings here on this issue. Fewer lawsuits.
     
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  2. PJ

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    If that be your choice, so be it. I, however, have free will to decide.

    You bet ... :thumbs:
     
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  3. PJ

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    [​IMG] I love it when you speak so eloquently, rbell.

    Thank you for sharing those kind and loving stories, annsni and Bro. Tony ...
     
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  4. annsni

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    ROTFL!!!! I was cringing as I was typing it - I'd MUCH rather get a ring. ;)

    Ann
     
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  5. Scarlett O.

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    I think this should help.

    The ring is not a reward for a covenant of purity (which, by the way, I don't understand why it is pushed more with girls than with boys.....boys need to follow God's standard, too).

    This ring is an outward symbol of a promise made. It's a reminder to yourself and a testimony to be shared when asked, "Who gave you the ring?"

    The mere fact that a young girl would go to her father and share this with him is amazing and she should be treated with the dignity because of it.

    There are many kids who don't keep the vow even though they wear the ring, but that doesn't mean the tradition is invalid nor that they kids who make the pledge aren't to be supported and prayed for and honored for their wanting to take a stand for Godly behavior that is becoming more and more difficult to do as each generation passes.
     
    #25 Scarlett O., Nov 8, 2006
  6. Humblesmith

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    When my kids turned 13, I put together a lengthy coming of age ceremony that emphasized purity, God's help, scripture, leaving childhood, and entering the next phase of life.


    By the way, there are no podiums, pews, air conditioners, cars, or computers in the bible, so any church that has those are not scriptural.:laugh:
     
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  7. Karen

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    At least in my church, it isn't pushed more with girls than with boys. My two sons made such a covenant. However, for whatever reasons, the girls I have known are more interested in a tangible reminder and in wearing it than boys I have known.
     
    #27 Karen, Nov 8, 2006
  8. Benjamin

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    Actually it was one of my first thoughts that this was a promise before God with knowing and obeying the truth, and the material end of having a ring shouldn’t really make a difference. BUT, I know she already knows this very well and is still asking for the ring, even suggesting it as a Christmas present probably because she was expecting I might say something like that. This is one of those cases when I’m glad I have learned some patience and to be long to hear and slow to speak.

    The very next thing she said was that some other girls where wearing them. She is a Freshman in a school with over 2,400 kids and obviously has spied out I’m sure a small minority of girls that aren’t ashamed to where those rings and wants to be a part of that club; that says a lot to me right there and pretty much sold me.

    She is quite the witness, as a matter of fact the other day we went to the store and bought some Bibles in preparation to always have one to give out as she has been working with a troubled girl.

    The ring would also be a good show and tell item for her. I can only speculate on some of the reasons she wants one, but I don’t feel anything negative about it, only proud, and want to make it special for her.

    Now the key thing sounds pretty special, but I can’t see myself ever giving that thing up. I’m not ready to even think about this stuff of giving her away, seems I would be setting my self up for an emotional event having to let go of that key.

    Some of you guys are making me fight back tears. It’s hard to believe I’ve raised such a little angel, she’s really smart too; I figured out long ago my kids would listen to God sooner than me and I couldn’t have done without sharing His words and guidance.

    I agree about the boys, I was thinking about this at work today that something like this would be a good idea for a boy also, good point.

     
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  9. gb93433

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    Do you know what a signet ring is?

    You might read
    Gen 38:25
    Gen 41:42
    Exod 28:11
    Exod 35:22
    Exod 39:6
    Exod 39:14
    Exod 39:30
    Numb 31:50
    Esth 3:10
    Esth 3:12
    Esth 8:2
    Esth 8:8
    Esth 8:10
    Jere 22:24
    Dani 6:17
    Hagg 2:23
     
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  10. I Am Blessed 24

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    God made a promise never to destroy the world again by water. He gave us a rainbow to remind us of that promise. It's the same with a promise ring. It's a physical reminder of a decision (promise) we've made.

    Benjamin: God bless you and your daughter. Give her the ring and thank God that she wants to wear it!

    I expected the same standards from my boys that I expected from my girls. Society may make a difference in how they act, but Christians should not.

    Blessings to all,
    §ue
     
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  11. annsni

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    Oh, trust me - there wasn't a dry eye in the church for each of the weddings - and I cried even knowing what was coming! Their father is a pastor and married each one of them - how he made it through ANY of it is beyond me. DH said there is no way that he can see himself doing it but we'll see (he's a pastor so will be able to marry the girls - but let's see if he's able)......... LOL!

    Ann
     
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  12. tinytim

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    And what about the ring the father gave to the prodigal son?
     
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  13. rbell

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    we've thoroughly and scripturally proven that HBSMN was full of hot air.

    Back to the edifying use of these things...

    I remember marrying a couple...one of which was a former student of mine. Both had "messed up" (before they knew one another) sexually in their lives. I remember the girl coming to me as we were talking about sex and dating. She wanted to make the commitment, but she said, "It's too late for me to wear the ring." What a teachable moment! We had a great lesson about forgiveness, grace, and making that vow "from this moment on." I paired her up with a lady with a similar testimony, that had "stayed the course."

    As I counseled the couple before the wedding, we got to talk about that, and both had similar stories. And both had kept their promise, and gave their purity rings to one another at the ceremony.

    It's not just about those kids who never fall...but also about those who never fall again.
     
    #33 rbell, Nov 9, 2006
  14. DodgeRamFanatic

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    If you ask my humble opinion, some of you need your heads slammed against a brick wall. First of all, HBSMN, maybe purity rings aren't mentioned in the Bible, but it doesn't mean they're wrong or right, either way. It's just a cool way to show that you're willing to wait. You can do it if you want to, and if you don't, well, that's OK, too. And on the other hand, guys, give this guy some elbow-room, OK? We gotta keep in mind that goodness knows how many people check out this sight, and half of them may not even be saved. THey don't need to see us CHristians going at each other's throats all the time, for Pete's sake.

    By the way, my sister has a purity necklace, and she gave a purity ring to one of her friends at church. I can't wear one myself, but if someone else likes them, be my guest. And God bless their decision.

    One last thing: thanx for your last post, rbell--you hit the target.
    DRF
     
    #34 DodgeRamFanatic, Nov 9, 2006
  15. ccrobinson

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    I do that already quite often around here, thanks. :BangHead: :wavey: :smilewinkgrin:
     
    #35 ccrobinson, Nov 9, 2006
  16. greek geek

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    Back to the ring suggestions - I've seen Claddagh rings used. They are the old irish wedding rings. Very symbolic. Two hands holding a heart with a crown on it. It could be a good reminder of who should hold her heart. And there's even a suggestion that it represents the Trinity.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Claddagh_ring
     
    #36 greek geek, Nov 10, 2006
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