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Born again is not only getting baptized, it is taking on the mind and viewpoint of God
Most here think like the world

 

Seriously...about 10 cc's of Haldol. Padre you got any?

 

When someone says I need to be born again, I take that as my salvation being questioned.

I think you're off your rocker.

 

You do not understand "born again".
Into a new creature, you will not think as the old worldly person, yet right now you do.

 

Turn to Jesus , not drugs

 

"Coo-coo, coo-coo."

Again, thankfully My salvation doesn't depend on your approval.

 

I believe God is doing a work in your lives. He will grow in God. Have faith!

 

Sminasian- Bottom line, don't trust internet advice. As evidenced here, much of it is horse-hockey. You're best served if you can speak to a pastor or someone who is familiar with the two of you and your situation. People here do care, but in-person counseling is much preferable.

 

Take a leap of faith!

 

Get by yourself. Ask God to show you. He will talk to you if you keep at it. Knock and keep knocking. Thank God for everything already done, and thank Him for what He will do soon. Seek the kingdom first, and all will be added to you.

 

I can only tell you that the Bible preaches against adultery. AND
I can only tell you that, as a Christian, you have a responsibility to God to
take care of yourself, your body is a temple. For me, that implies
respecting myself - and allowing myself to be abused is not showing
myself any respect.

We cannot change people. God can, but if we put our expectations
on God, we might be disappointed if what WE want is not in HIS plan.

 

Ok, I confess, I use black magic, hypnosis, and raising deceased relatives from the dead to heal abused people. I also at times on good days receive a word of knowledge and speak in tongues. Of course on Halloween, we burn black cats.

 

Take a leap........................

 

I never noticed this poster before, but this person is either drinking something, smoking something, or got hit in the head. I have never seen so many salvations questioned in one thread.

 

You are bearing false witness, and you are a liar. I strongly suggest you repent, accuser.

 

Thought so. Psychology too I suppose...

 

I'm thankful that you can read through the debate that one in particular has brought into your plea for guidance. Many others would have silently turned away.

Here's the quandry. Regardless of what each of us offers as advice, we cannot know the will of God in your life. How does God see this? We can't fully answer because God is looking at your heart and sees what we cannot see. What does God expect? Universally, we can, as born again members of the body of Christ, tell you what God expects of us all. However, we can't tell one member of the Body, specifically what God expects from that specific individual, in a situation like this one. (Especially when we can't do more than type at a keyboard.) Only He can do that.

Simply because we do not know and cannot know what His will is in your life. We cannot know, with certainty, that God wants the two of you back together. We cannot know, with certainty, that God does not want you to resume your marriage at some point in time in the future.

If your question were about abortion, for example, this is cut and dried, from a scriptures standpoint, IMO. How does God see this? It's murder. What can God do? He can forgive the murderer when that person truely repents and begs for His mercy. What does God expect? That the murderer never kill an unborn child again.

Your situation isn't that simple. It isn't that cut and dried. Primarily because it isn't about your walk with our Lord, alone. There's another person involved. One who currently is not giving evidence that he, too, is walking with our Lord. And, based on your story, has strayed from the path while you were with him in a husband/wife relationship. Just as we can't know God's will for you and your life, we can't know God's will for his either. Not at this level, not with this situation you find yourself in.

It may indeed be that God does want the two of you to unite again. Under His terms and in His timeframe. With BOTH of you in surrender to Him. If that's what God is expecting, then the only thing you can do is wait, until He receives that surrender from you and from your ex-husband. Yes, you still feel that he is your husband. However, right now, evidence indicates that he isn't totally surrendered to viewing you as his wife (in the same context), as well. Frankly, he can't and still be committing adultry right in front of you.

IMO, right now, the only thing you can do is wait. I'm not saying that lightly, either, as that's probably one of the hardest things this flesh has to do. Scriptures show us over and over again, what can happen, if we don't wait and take matters into our own hands. Would Islam exist today if Sarah had faithfully waited for God's will to manifest itself within her life?

By your own timetable, you have to wait. Wait in prayer for both of you. Wait for God's will to manifest itself in both of your lives, just as Sarah should have done.

That said, and based on what you've said, find another pastor to help you. Not all "pastors" can give sound advice and council. My own pastor bemoans the fact there are too many pastors preaching "do what ever you want, its all covered under grace". -- I know I'm saved, so I'll go to heaven regardless of what I do. I'll be forgiven, so I might as well enjoy some of the fruits of this sin ridden world. -- Find another pastor who also preaches that each one of us will stand before our Saviour and will be judged for our failures to turn away from the "world".

In closing, it sounds like you have a good approach in place to try to learn God's will. You are being cautious, as you should. You know what's the Holy Spirit has revealed, so far, about what's in your heart. You don't know what's in his, despite what he's had to say. Nor, do you know what else the Holy Spirit may reveal about what's in your own heart when you're ready to hear.

I'm just a layman, so my words won't count for much. Find a pastor who can help you hear, more clearly, what the Holy Spirit can and will reveal about yourself and your ex-husband. My prayers are that you will find such a shepherd who can bring you closer to finding the answers to the questions that you've just posed. He can put his hand on your shoulder and pray with you, while we can only pray for you, from a distance.

I hope you find some measure of help within these words.

 

He reminds me of another (banned) poster who used to question others' salvation and had a fixation on psychology.

The sad thing is, if someone didn't have an adequate amount of discernment, they might take his advice seriously and be harmed because of it.