Scriptures says identifying is obvious and to anyone.
1 john 3
10By this the children of God and the children of the devil are obvious: anyone who does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor the one who does not love his brother.
John 13
34“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.
35“By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”
Does "all" right here mean ELECT? Well if you don't know who are the other elect are........I got some good news for you.
Did Jesus Christ die for me?
I get the impression Calvinist don't know who are the elect, don't know who are the children of God, don't know who are the disciples of Christ.