Rather than get sidetracked into attacking the Romans 9 viewpoint presented in the video by attacking some of the questionable views of the presenter, I want to discuss, if possible, the actual views presented.
1) Is Romans chapter 9 solely a story of Israel, or can we find application for our individual lives? I think we can find application for our individual lives.
2) Under the Old Covenant, whose head was Abraham, Isaac and Israel (Jacob), the children of the promise are the believing Jews. Under the New Covenant, whose head is Christ Jesus, the children of the promise are believers in Christ, whether Jew or Gentile.
3. Paul opens his Chapter 9 discourse by saying he has great sorrow in his heart for his kinsmen, fellow Israelites. Why? Because God’s election of Israel does not include all the descendents of Abraham unto salvation. The promise does not apply to the entire family tree, only to a subset of folks within the family tree. Paul desires that more of his kinsmen would be chosen and in fact is willing to offer his salvation in exchange for the salvation of his kinsmen.
4) God said to Moses, I will have mercy on who I have mercy and compassion on who I have compassion. So salvation is the gift of God, He grants salvation. I think everybody agrees with this, it is just in the manner of how God grants salvation that people go their separate ways.
5) Is the election of Jacob and Esau, before they had done anything good or bad, an unconditional election? No, the younger was chosen over the older so that the older would serve the younger. Were they chosen for salvation under the New Covenant, or chosen to fulfill God's purpose and plan concerning Israel? Were they chosen before creation or during their lifetime, while in the womb?
6) The Video point of Pharaoh being hardened for God's purpose of providing mercy as illustrating Israel being hardened for God's purpose of providing wider mercy, i.e. to the Gentiles, seems solid.
7) Out of one lump, vessels of wrath and vessels of mercy. How were we fitted or made ripe for destruction? I think this refers to the Fall, we are all under sin, and in need of mercy. How are we made, from the same lump, by nature children of wrath, into vessels of mercy? God puts us in Christ where we are spiritually born anew. How did He prepare beforehand? God chose His Redeemer, and corporately His redeemed, and formulated His plan of Redemption before creation.