I usually stay out of the Cal/Arm debates because of all the vitriol, but I saw this and had to comment.
Firstly, I'll go ahead and go along with your labels, even though studying them out recently I have come to realize that they are indeed a slur against any non-cal, rather than an actual descriptor.
Secondly, your claim actually made me laugh. You're actually claiming that the person who says, "Anyone can be saved as I was", has room to boast, but the person who says, "Not everyone can be like me", doesn't have room to boast?
That's not very well thought out.
You are wrong on all points, but I'll just address just two.
First, no Arminian (non-Cal) can say, "Anyone can be saved as I was". A synergist did something to aid in his salvation, and not all people do that something because not all people are saved. First, the most glaring problem with your logic is that you completely disregard billions of people who have lived and died without ever hearing the gospel. . .
Second, the person *saved* by God's grace was not saved because of anything good within him, but rather, just the opposite! He was saved, completely, because he had no ability to save himself. No Calvinists boast that God saved him and passed over another, he asks in wonder at God's mercy toward him, "why me, Lord?".
Am I to boast about this?: But God chose what is foolish in the world to shame the wise; God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong;
A synergist (no, it's not a slur) always has grounds to boast. A monergist can only boast in his Savior. There is no potential for boasting when you did nothing. There are grounds for boasting when you did something. That can't be argued.
May I ask, why are you a Christian but your neighbor/co-worker/friend is not? What have you done that he/she has not?