I decided to research "seeker-friendly" for myself, seeing as my insulated nook of the world doesn't exactly toss that term around with regularity. From several quickly-Googled websites, I found:
* The seeker-friendly church tries to make church as comfortable and inviting to others as possible, in the hope is that the person will believe in the gospel.
A believer led by the Spirit will find comfort in the House of God without having to change the order of things in the House of God.
So, don't replace the roof, don't replace the furnace, the carpet, update the furniture, have air conditioning, etc.?? Just be happy you've got a place to meet and live with it, is that it? Also, the list you presented said the seeker church was changing things to make unbelievers feel comfortable, not believers. Why change the argument to the viewpoint of believers?
*The seeker-friendly church tries to make church "non-threatening."
A would-be believer who is still in sin is, almost by design, going to find church "threatening." This is not through any act of the preacher or the deacons or the staff, but instead by the convicting power of the Holy Ghost of God. Since the flesh is at enmity with the Spirit, the unsaved will seek to distance themselves from it. I've watched plenty of younger teens and children who, upon coming under conviction, sought to "got to the bathroom" or to "hide behind a songbook."
Since non-threatening is not defined, it can be made to mean anything. You've decided it means that people will be threatened by the convicting power of the Holy Spirit. I also noticed that these attendees are now unbelievers whereas in your first point they were believers.
So far, you are in favor of uncomfortable, uninviting churches for believers and threatening churches for non-believers. Forgive me if I make the observation that this strategy is
possibly not conducive to church growth. Anyway, any time the gospel is preached it is likely to be perceived as threatening to unbelievers. Are you saying that seeker friendly churches don't preach the gospel?
* The seeker-friendly church uses audio-visual stimulation in hopes of keeping the interest of the unsaved.
This is merely a by-product of our current society, which stresses instant gratification and the necessity of constant stimulation.
I see. So we should not use overhead visual aids, sound amplification devices, moving picture devices (talkies), etc. You have not shown why these devices are bad, just stated that they are currently used. Should we go back to candlelight, hymnals, and yelling from the podium?
* The seeker-friendly church sometimes/often uses surveys and studies to find out what people want to find in church, and what would make church better for them.
See #1. A believer led by the Spirit will change for the church, not force the church to change for them.
Pastor: "It's my way or the highway!!"
OR
Pastor: "I wonder why we don't have any young families attending our church?"
Deacon: "Could it be that we don't have a nursery?"
Pastor: "Well, don't ask anyone what they want. And we wouldn't want them to be comfortable either."
* The seeker-friendly church is quite often closely tied to the ministerial aspirations of people like Joel Osteen, who stress that God will make your life better if you believe.
I hold no good will toward the ministerial aspirations of Osteen and the like. Their supposed "gospel" is dangerous to believers young and old. There is no promise in the Bible that belief in God will produce a better quality of physical life for the believer. In most instances, believers were treated more harshly and had harder lives than nonbelievers. The stress was on the spiritual things, and on laying up treasures in Heaven. The modern Prosperity Gospel avoids that and says that earthly treasures are equitable with the blessing of God.
While I loathe both Joel Osteen and his ilk, and the prosperity gospel, I don't necessarily see linkage between seeker-friendly churches and Osteen's. Osteen (and others) may employ #1 through #4 on your list, but that doesn't make them bad methods. You are using the fallacy of guilt by association.
I would love for someone to tell me that I'm wrong in my new-found understanding of "seeker-friendly" churches
You're welcome.