It is wrong in the church because no one is edified!
Exactly; and what does he say about edification in verse 5? "greater is he...that the church may receive edifying."
How about verse 12? "seek that ye may excel to the edifying of the church."
How about verse 17? "For thou verily givest thanks well,
but the other is not edified."
What about verse 19? "Yet in the church I had rather speak five words with my understanding,
that by my voice I might teach others also, than ten thousand words in an unknown tongue.
And verse 26? "Let all things be done unto edifying."
THe correction was tongues without the interpretation throughout chapter 14. He does not forbid it! He does not deny that he spoke in tongues other than church.
He also does NOT make it plain that he spoke in languages outside of church. All he says is that he speaks in more languages than any of them. To say that this means he spoke in languages outside of the church is just as much of an assumption as saying he only spoke in languages in the church. So this line of reasoning is invalid, because it's based on assumption that can't be proven.
HE also makes it plain that speaking in tongues is speaking to God/ praying in the spirit/ blessing with the spirit/giving thanks.
...Paul says in vs. that tongues edifies self! In church it edifies all when the interpretation is given (vs. 5).
So you are never build up in your spirit?
Verse 4 doesn't say, "speak in languages so that you'll edify yourself." It says, "if you speak in an unknown language, you don't edify anyone but yourself." This is the correct way of understanding this verse because of what Paul says in verse 2 and in verse 5; and in the context of the multiple verses I identified above.
God's love is NOT keeping something to yourself. God's love is NOT edifying only yourself. Remember the parable of the talents; he who hid his talent, and didn't spread it with others, was rebuked and punished for his selfishness. God's love is sharing the gospel, and edifying the body. All gifts of the spirit MUST be viewed in this context; look at 1 Corinthians 12, where it talks about the many members of the body, having different abilities; but that we should have the same care for one another (verse 25).
THAT is the point that Paul is trying to make: That any gift of the spirit is not for one's self, but for the edification and furthering of all. To preach/teach that a spiritual gift is something personal, is to hide your talent in the dirt and keep it from others, when it's supposed to be used for others.