Those who believe deacons can be women or pastors always say but Phebe was a deacon, Romans 16:Romans 16
1I commend unto you Phebe our sister, which is a servant of the church which is at Cenchrea:
2That ye receive her in the Lord, as becometh saints, and that ye assist her in whatsoever business she hath need of you: for she hath been a succourer of many, and of myself also.
3Greet Priscilla and Aquila my helpers in Christ Jesus:
Says she was a servant one who served, which is what a true deacon does he too serves tables. However Paul says she was a servant and the greek diakonos, which means
one who executes the commands of another, esp. of a master, a servant, attendant, minister
Phebe served the church at Cenchrea
the servant of a king
a deacon, one who, by virtue of the office assigned to him by the church, cares for the poor and has charge of and distributes the money collected for their use
Notice it says one who cares for the poor and has charge of and distributes the money collected, no spiritual teaching falls into this.
a waiter, one who serves food and drink
One who serves food and drink, Phebe served the church not Lead the church nor did she teach men in the church.
Paul sais she was succouer this from the greek Prostais a feminine noun which means:
a woman set over others
a female guardian, protectress, patroness, caring for the affairs of others and aiding them with her resources
She was a protectress aiding them with her resources she was charged with caring for others including Paul she cared for his needs. Nowhere does it show her having SPIRITUAL authority over Paul or any other man. She had charge of their needs, that is the work of a servant a diakonos.
The Apostles command for the deacons was that 7 men be chosen to serve tables. To distribute the physical needs of the widows and others. That was what Phebe did, she never had SPIRITUAL AUTHORITY over any man.