In the OP, I asked ...
Does anyone get into heaven who does not love Jesus, is not His friend, does not obey Him?
You have answered in the affirmative.
IMO, you need to figure out what salvation is all about.
For example, John 10:26-27 and John 17:3.
It is NOT about what you have learned in church.
It IS about what the NT teaches.
Acts 16:29-31 Then he called for a light, and sprang in, and came trembling, and fell down before Paul and Silas,
And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved?
And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.
Your progressive salvation is not taught in scripture.
You are either saved and kept saved or you're not saved at all.
Jude 1:1 Jude, the servant of Jesus Christ, and brother of James, to them that are sanctified by God the Father, and preserved in Jesus Christ, and called:
Either you believe or you don't.
John 6:28-29 Then said they unto him, What shall we do, that we might work the works of God?
Jesus answered and said unto them, This is the work of God, that ye believe on him whom he hath sent.
You are either a child of God through Faith in Jesus Christ or you are a child of satan.
Galatians 3:26 For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus.
Salvation
Saved from the penalty of sin (eternal death)-Justification
Being saved from the power of sin-sanctification
Will be saved from the presence of sin- glorification
This is the guarantee of Salvation...The Moment you were sealed with the Holy Spirit of Promise
Ephesians 4:30 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
One is saved when they are positionally, right or justified before God through imputed righteousness that comes from Christ.
Now, a Christian can be out of FELLOWSHIP with God and that is usually the misunderstanding in discussions like this.
We can't earn favor with God, we cannot bribe Him to get into heaven. Loving God doesn't get us into heaven, Loving God is a result of God's love to us by pardoning us through Christ's sacrifice.
We love God because He first loved us.
1 John 4:13-16, 19 Hereby know we that we dwell in him, and he in us, because he hath given us of his Spirit.
And we have seen and do testify that the Father sent the Son to be the Saviour of the world.
Whosoever shall confess that Jesus is the Son of God, God dwelleth in him, and he in God.
And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.
We love him, because he first loved us.