Stay-At-Home Moms

THat is a praise, Gina. THanks for sharing that with us. It helps to remind us to wait upon the Lord. He will answer our prayers in His Time.

In my opinion, girls should be taught how to take care of themselves, in the event, that they do not marry, they marry and their husband becomes disabled, or they become widows. They should have education and skills. THere may not always be a man there to take care of them.

I have said it over and over again in these threads, but no woman or man should feel guilty if the wife works.

 

Gina,
What a praise, thanks be to God for that. What a testimony that is of God's provisions.


Latterain,
I agree with what you said about the Prov 31.

Thankful,
I agree with you too that a girl SHOULD be taught skills in case she needs to provide money for herself or her household. This does happen as we see just in this thread atleast three ladies who are homeschooling and single. They are doing a great job!

 

Heeeeeeeeeeeyyyyy, Gina!! I'm a guy!! Other guys have posted--yet . . . our opinions don't count?? Or or you girls lookin' for someone just a little bit better??

Blackbird

 

Let me guess, you're gonna go eat worms now? LOL
Ok, so you're a guy, but I meant MORE guys. Plus I already knew what you were going to say so it wasn't all that exciting by the time you posted it.
Gina

 

Thanks, I think. All work is hard, but I don't deserve any more praise than a man who does the same thing.

Why on earth would you think that? Honestly, blackbird, I don't know what to think of such a comment. I don't dig ditches . . . why would I come home looking a mess and feeling miserable?

Yes, I do "gotta do it," unless I were to live under my parents' charity (which I know some people think single women should do), but more than that, I enjoy working. This seems to be a strange concept. When people are talking about how men "have to" work, I keep thinking that it's more that "men get to" work.

 

Stay at home Moms rock!

My wife is home with two little girls, and has a tougher job than I do, with much less pay, try none

It is not always easy, but we both agree that it is better for the kids to have her home, than to have the little bit of extra income. Now she would much rather be at work some days, but its really about what we feel is best for our kids at this point.

She may teach part time after they are in school, they are 3 and 1 now, so they really need their mom. She has her elementary ed degree, and was a full time substitute teacher before we had kids and worked 4-5 days a week between a couple public schools and a christian school. That was a perfect job, plenty of opportunities to work, no commitment, flexible schedule, and no take home work.

 

I work in an AC office and I do come home tired, grumpy, none or little patience. I walk in the door after picking up my daughter who has just spent 2 and 1/2 hours in afterschool, who now wants me to play and be the center of my attention. But I have to make dinner, because she and my husband must eat. Then I have to clean up. I just may have time to play a game or sit down with her. Then bath, brush teeth, etc. all those nightly things moms do. Then read a story, pray, go to bed. I have caught myself trying to pick the shortest book. I have caught myself trying to insert an Amen in my daughters prayers because I am so tired adn still have so much to do. When I should be thankful that my daughter wants to spend time telling Jesus everything she is thankful for........
Then its off to do laundry, clean, pack lunches for the next day, etc.......
then my husband complains he is not getting enough attention..........
So yes I feel like I've been through a thousand rounds before I even get home mentally and then I am non stop once I get home.............
And tehn the guilt for not being there for my daughter.... explaining to her why other mothers can be there at parent pick up and I can not. And the guilt at not being the best wife and mother I could be if I was at home............

 

{{{{{{{{{{Carolyn}}}}}}}}}}!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jesus, our sister needs more grace . . . comfort and strengthen her . . . bless her for her faithfulness and give her the desires of her heart. AMEN.

Julia

 

I've been there Carolynn. I think that's where the phrase "A woman's work is never done" comes from. It's awful. And the guilt makes it even worse. I hope someday things will shift and change a little bit for you. I know how hard it can be. It's heartbreaking and it isn't fair.

In Christ,
Laurenda

 

Dude, Until we moved from Michigan to AZ, I had to work 60 hours a week avg. to make (best I did was 22k) 20k a year. My wife and I chose for her to stay at home. Money was tight. I had to work a lot of overtime. Fortunately, the Lord has always made sure our needs were met. Now He has blessed us with more than we need so we are able to help others at our church.

It sure was not easy. Is this the right situation for everyone? I don't know, but it is our conviction that it is for our household.

 

Before our boys all started school my wife was a stay at home mom. We did without many things, and I worked extra jobs, but it was well worth it to have Mom there for the boys.

We had our first boy in daycare until the second one was born, then after we were saved the Lord led us to have Mom stay at home and trust Him to provide and surprise, surprise. the Lord provided very well.

Not with material things but spiritually our cup ran over.

 

Dude??? I haven't heard anyone call someone Dude since I was in High School in the 70's. Who you calling "Dude" anyway?

[ May 05, 2003, 07:57 PM: Message edited by: Wisdom Seeker ]

 

LOL . . . that's what I call my 12-yo twin boys, and actually, just this moment, their middle sister called out to them "hey dude!" . . . don't ask me where we got it from though! LOL . . .

Julia

 

I embellished a little...I sometimes call my 10 year old (11 next month) son "Dude" he just says "Aw Mom, People don't talk like that anymore" and does this at me.

I just thought it was funny that someone here would call someone "Dude" and I was hoping he didn't mean me. Sometimes people think that everyone from California talks like this: "It's like the surfer talk dude, like totally" Only's I'm not a dude, I'm technically a dudette

[ May 05, 2003, 08:01 PM: Message edited by: Wisdom Seeker ]

 

hsmom3,

Honest Opinion? It's a Biblical Command.

Again, I am so thrilled to be able to do for my family! I fully agree with Kate and others!

I find it very manly for a guy to want to support his family! You Go Guys! YOU ROCK!


Diane

[ May 05, 2003, 08:30 PM: Message edited by: dianetavegia ]

 

No one has addressed some of the issues I brought up in this thread.
Fleshing it out, I think that the modern "patriarchy" movement is off the mark in many ways, but one thing they do realize is that a family needs a father, too.
And that until various stages in the Industrial Revolution, most fathers were at home with the family, in some manner.
We now accept as normal that the father must be gone from home a lot, even working two or 3 jobs so that the mother can be at home. And that is a relatively modern idea.

My grandparents were "at home" but worked out in the fields daylight to dark. With the kids often largely raising themselves. My parents both worked, for the same company. And long and hard, too. But I saw BOTH of them as I would not have if only one had worked.
In the "old days" a woman staying at home usually brought income to the family. Now it does not, and the reasons now given for being at home would have been unrecognizable to my ancestors.
That does not mean your concepts are wrong, it means, sometimes, calling on historical precedent is faulty.

Karen

 

Does it really matter if the woman is at home? When my daughter was a baby, I worked 40-60 hrs a week, sometimes 7 days a week. She never suffered for it. She had all that she needed, and I just stayed up longer every night.
My day consisted of getting her ready, going to the sitter (4:30 am). Went to work, got off about 6:00pm, went to the sitter. Got home, cooked, fed her. Bathed her, read a story,played for about an hour. Put her to bed and then I washed clothes, did dishes, cleaned and anything else I had to do.
She never suffered. I think the important thing is how much you love and give them, not when.
I could be at home 24/7 and still ignore or mistreat my child. Why do we as christians always feel the need to judge others?
Christine

 

I can't answer your question, but it does seem that this is true.

Children need both parents (if that is possible).
Fathers should take a very active roll in teaching and rearing the children.

 

Well spoken, Thankful. There are oodles of reasons for why women work outside of the home. I don't have trouble keeping up with housework and I'm home in the morning and afternoon for my kids. I was, however, prayerful and articulate when choosing a job. I'm gone when the kids are gone (school) and home when the kids are home. Working around my kids' schedule was and is top priority for me.

Now I'm out 'n about during the day and of course, witnessing along the way. My job doesn't get in the way of performing my motherly/wifely duties and the Lord has blessed me 100 fold for my efforts.
PJ