ummmmmmm a friend of mine who is getting married close to my bday(I am photographing her wedding) met this really cute guy when she was barfy feeling/looking at teh pharmacy getting a prescription filled... she's 22 years old... and he helped her out and they are now engaged.... she was in sweats... she is VERY PRETTY when she has to be, but he prefers the no make up look on her... and she looks extremely different now that she's caught her guy and she looks better... and I think that's what he was getting at when he explained it to her.
yeah Christian guys are male... but they should be acting more like God... I know a lot of guys who, yes enjoy looking at "hot chicks", but they also prefer a more "natural" look on a girl... they always comment about how jeans that hug the butt make the girl's butt look to big LOL
ummmmmmmmm....we're talking about two different things. You're addressing a single situation and I'm looking at population dynamics addressed from a mountain of research in human sexuality conducted in the past 20 years. Your situation is valid and supported by kinesics theories. Research has shown that although men are preconditioned by our culture to seek out the young, thin, attractive female - men tend to be more sexually satisfied with women who are less than society's ideal. The study of which I refer to involved a survey of 180 courples representing a cross section of society. 90 of those couples were men who were married to very atrrative women, and the other 90 were married to averagely attrative women. Of the 90 who were married to the very atttractive women the majority of responses rating the couple's sexual perfomance from the man's point of view was acceptable to average. However the majority of repondants from the average group rated their spouses performance between good and very good.
Recent studies show that reasons men and women seek out relationships with each other is strongly governed by reproductive biology. There is also a relationship that involves cultural influences such as the "ideal" as discuused earlier. And yes I know that families are on average having less children nowadays, but a temporary change in cultural practices does not easily override or shunt thousands of years of selected genetic traits. Of the figures I'm about to give I will make the statement that they represent trends in the population representative of a majority of the population. There are always exceptions to the rule but chracteristics of a population are not defined by the exceptions. They only mean that the frequency or the observed feature is prevalent enough that if you pulled a sample at random from the population then you would expect it to have said characteristics.
The statistics are also not representative of my personal bias or not dirrected in any way at implying or evaluating an individual or to make a qualitative assessment of that individual.
Studies have shown that most(remember these are means) women's reproductive cycles are at their peak between the ages of 15 and 25. Many women in this age range experience "hyper fertility"
and can become pregnant at any time during the menstrual cycle. But at 25 the ovulation frequency lessens and when women reach their 30's ther is an observed drop in fertility levels. Yes there are women who get pregnant in their 40's, but remember they are exceptions. Every society in history has endorsed ideals that represent the model of desirability of mates with repect to reproductive success. In antiquity larger women, what society would consider obese by todays standards, were in fashion. Thats because such women were economically sufficient enough to have access to food, and were generally healthier than those of limited resouces. Today such women are generally associated with poverty, and viewed as wanting in the areas of integrity and personal responsibility. Societies model has become the Victoia's secret woman with large breasts and a thin waist. Men are conditioned from youth to place high values on these attributes because such women can produce children that are, like herself, considered attrative - thus increasing their chances of reproductive success. The woman's sensual attributes are also viewed as someone who has been "natuarlly blessed" with good genetic characteristics and is a person of integrity and responsibility. Men also have a "hunter mentality" and weve all heard of the "trophy wife " phenomena. A man often will evaluate his manliness based opon the quality of a catch he can get with respect to society's ideal.
Women usually place a higher value on love and security when it comes to relationships. They are the ones who have to bear and take care of the children and their vulnerabilities during such periods prompt them to behave in that manner.
A recent survey examining demographic and economic data revealed a startling trend in our nations larger cities. More women in their 30's are single than men. Other surveys conducted have shown that a man in his 30's or 40's is over 4 times more likely to have a relationship with someone of the opposite sex 10 - 15 years younger than himself than his female 30-40's counterpart. What does this all mean? Well many researchers point out that men in their 30's - 40's are more mature and financially independent than their younger peers. As such they are generally more able to provide for a woman's emotional needs as well as economically. Women on the other hand begin a biological decline nearing their 30's as previously stated and youthful looks generally begin to wane during that period. In summation - in our culture men become potentially more attractive to women as they age and head in to their 30's and 40's and women inversely become less attrative to men as they do so. Larger implications - a woman who takes 10 years out of her life to pursue a career may be significantly reducing her chances of finding fulfillment in marriage and/or having children. Bottom line in all of this - guys place high importance on looks as they are culturally conditioned to do so. But of course thats not the whole picture but someting we must contend with nontheless.
