You're thinking too dualistically.
It happens to all of us. For too many of us, at some point or another, we have been molded to think everything is either black or white, a or b, when in fact there is an entire spectrum of options. (There are, of course, some things that can be understood as one or the other i.e. the resurrection of Jesus.)
See you immediately post above this, it is rife with dualism (I don't use rife in an insulting manner.) There are other options than either/or.
To see theological options as a spectrum is not to suddenly embrace universalism or liberalism. Instead it is to do appropriate theological triage we see more spectrum is available as we understand things less foundationally and more doctrinally.
Dualism often leads to legalism which inhibits conversation.