I think that refusing to become a member is not something that rises to kicking someone out, as that would be reserved for gross unrepentant sinning, and also heretical teachings and doctrines!Brother, with all due respect, that is bad counsel. The church can weather any criticism of its integrity. The best remedy for this individual is to be exposed to the Word of God. Perhaps God will grant him repentance from his sinful attitude. Perhaps the love of the brethren will be used by God to accomplish the same thing.