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Unfaithful Wife

How are you going to handle when your wife ask you to share the Gospel to a man that later you found that, that man and your wife have an affair.
 

1689Dave

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How are you going to handle when your wife ask you to share the Gospel to a man that later you found that, that man and your wife have an affair.
If she divorces you and marries him, both will be living in a state of adultery. If that happens and you remarry too, you and your new wife will also be in a state of adultery (Matt. 19:9).

The best thing is to forgive, pray, and do what it takes to make it work.
 

Bible Thumpin n Gun Totin

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I wouldn't go near him for awhile.

In most cases:
You don't send someone who struggles with lust to a brothel for evangelization.
You don't send a former alcoholic to evangelize at a bar.
You and your wife ought not go near that man as it seems she is tempted by him.

If it's not already been done, counselling with your Elders/Pastor should be the next step to see if reconciliation can be had.

Down the road a couple years it would be valuable to approach the man again, acknowledge that you forgive him and share the Gospel at that point. That would be a great witness. Currently though, the protection of your God-ordained marriage must now be priority 1. Everything else is secondary.

Got to get your marriage back on the firm foundation of Christ before wrestling with darkness. You cannot advance forward until your marriage is drug out of the quicksand and you'll need the help of a Pastor/Elder/Brother for that.
 

Reynolds

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I would trust God for a miracle. The trial itself is a blessing if you can pull it together.
I think it falls under "the strong man" not allowing himself to be bound and this not allowing the destruction of his house.
 

1689Dave

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I think it falls under "the strong man" not allowing himself to be bound and this not allowing the destruction of his house.
I should mention this. I had a few exchanges with a guy with a long incarceration record. Listed twice on the Register of violent offenders. I already made up my mind that I'd rather die upholding Christ's words on non-violence. The Lord gave me wisdom in handling him. In about a year a situation developed and he couldn't get out of Dodge fast enough, so to speak. I had a great trial and overcame it. Violence was not an option in my thinking. I faced death as a martyr. And today I'm all the stronger.
 

Reynolds

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I should mention this. I had a few exchanges with a guy with a long incarceration record. Listed twice on the Register of violent offenders. I already made up my mind that I'd rather die upholding Christ's words on non-violence. The Lord gave me wisdom in handling him. In about a year a situation developed and he couldn't get out of Dodge fast enough, so to speak. I had a great trial and overcame it. Violence was not an option in my thinking. I faced death as a martyr. And today I'm all the stronger.
You do all that held up on your porch?
 

1689Dave

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Jesus beat up the money changers. I am sure if Paul had a wife, he would have defended her.
He drove the cattle out and turned over their tables. But what did he tell Peter after he cut off Malchus' ear? He told Him and us to put away the sword. Don't cower behind a gun, be willing to die for Christ's word, and become courageous.
 

Mikey

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If she divorces you and marries him, both will be living in a state of adultery. If that happens and you remarry too, you and your new wife will also be in a state of adultery (Matt. 19:9).

The best thing is to forgive, pray, and do what it takes to make it work.

I do not agree completely agree with your position but this is not the thread for a debate on marriage and remarriage, so I will leave it at that.
 

Reynolds

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He drove the cattle out and turned over their tables. But what did he tell Peter after he cut off Malchus' ear? He told Him and us to put away the sword. Don't cower behind a gun, be willing to die for Christ's word, and become courageous.
Mt 21 says "He drove out all who sold...."
Are the cattle selling themselves?
Jesus also said the time would come to seek your cloak and buy a sword
Me fearful? Says the one too scared to leave his own porch??????
 

1689Dave

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You do all that held up on your porch?
I park some distance away where his dog attacked us a few times. And we had exchanges from a short distance. But I saw one of the most obvious miracles of my life putting it to an end.
 

1689Dave

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I do not agree completely agree with your position but this is not the thread for a debate on marriage and remarriage, so I will leave it at that.
Just telling him to be careful. Open a thread so we can debate it.
 

Reynolds

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I park some distance away where his dog attacked us a few times. And we had exchanges from a short distance. But I saw one of the most obvious miracles of my life putting it to an end.
Park. You said you are in isolation. Isolated people don't go anywhere.
 
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