There I am apt to agree with you...ive personally never seen one that was not at heart extremely legalistic and you can just about guarantee that someone there will speak desparigenly about Calvinism and those apostate Calvinists ....just wait for it. But then what are you gonna do Evangel? And your wife thinks she has won the battle of "the church "....and I will bet she isn't taking any prisoners. Not after she ratted you out to her pastor. Did it real quick too.
I desire peace. Yes I desire peace.... For the moment we will need to agree to disagree. I want to show the IFB that Reformed are more gracious and kind and not the divisive ones which belong to IFB. Reformed can be very kind and gracious.
After a chat I had with a former Reformed Baptist pastor of mine he says I should not make it a big issue. I listen to Charles Stanley, David Jeremiah, and Erwin Lutzer whom are not Reformed, so no need to be divisive with Arminian. These IFB are not KJVO nor do they believe one can lose salvation, so they are not automatic red flags.
I will become a member of the church as long as the pastor agrees to respect my Reformed theology in which he did.