I believe that the lost are chastened after death and that, eventually, God grants them repentance so that they can come to the truth and then they will gleefully choose to follow Jesus.
Remember, nobody can follow Jesus unless God permits them to do so. Also, or so I believe, nobody can repent unless allowed by God to do so.
Acts 5:31
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He is the one whom God exalted to His right hand as a Prince and a Savior, to grant repentance to Israel, and forgiveness of sins.
Acts 11:18
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When they heard this, they quieted down and glorified God, saying, “Well then, God has granted to the Gentiles also the repentance that leads to life.”
2 Timothy 2:25
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with gentleness correcting those who are in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth,
Romans 2:4
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Or do you think lightly of the riches of His kindness and tolerance and patience, not knowing that the kindness of God leads you to repentance?
2 Peter 3:9
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The Lord is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance.