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What if you knew something was wrong?

Discussion in '2000-02 Archive' started by susanpet, Sep 9, 2002.

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  1. Lorelei

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    Susanpet, I never meant that you were a gossip and I know that this situation is real and has some true aspects that need to be addressed. I seriously think that if talking to your friend has not helped, that you should go to your pastor. I am sorry that I mixed my comments to your situation with my comments against blanket statements in regard to other situations.

    Please forgive me if you thought I that I was accusing you in any way of doing wrong. You were not!

    My comments were not targeted at you or this situation in any way. You have stated that there many reasons to question this.

    Others have said that guilt and innocence don't matter, and I disagree. That is what I was referring to.

    I wasn't questioning you in any way shape or form, for you have obviously found there is more to it then meets the eye. You are not saying they are guilty until proven innocent, you are truly concerned and have MANY instances to base that concern off of. I would truly hope that you are still my friend, and I hope that if I were in a situation that you thought was questionable, that you would do what you have done here. Speaking to your friend first led you to be aware of circumstances that caused an even greater concern. Asking advice from fellow chirstians is always a great thing to do! I do and will consider you a friend in Christ.

    My passion got the best of me and for that I apologize. My passion was for defending those that were judged regardless of thier guilt or innocence. That is not applicable in your situation. I should have let thier comment slide and hold my tongue, but I didn't. I hope you can forgive me.

    ~Lorelei
     
    #21 Lorelei, Sep 11, 2002
  2. russell55

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    I agree that you should tell your pastor. Let him sort this out. Something just doesn't sit right in this situation, and I think you are right to be concerned.
     
    #22 russell55, Sep 11, 2002
  3. susanpet

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    What get's me the most is when he went out to eat with my cousin while his wife and two daughters stayed home. And one of his daughters just got out of the hospital after a serious car wreck. I was standing right beside of them in the parking lot and he said he would have to go home first and check on his daughter and then he would meet her. My cousin's mother goes along with them to eat, but it still doesn't look right. It's like they are oblivious to what they are doing, like everything is alright as long as they go to church.
    I know that God will not be mocked and that something serious could happen.

    I am afraid that if I tell my pastor what is going on, that my cousin will stop going to church at all.
    I have had an unspoken prayer request at church about this and I pray that God will convict both of them.

    At first I thought that he was just being friendly, because he is a friendly person. But the more I have been around him I can see that he feels more than sisterly love toward her.

    She told me that he said that he could love her more than her husband ever could. Right then she should have put the brakes on.

    When I talk to her she agrees that he likes her too much and she said no man was worth forsaking her religion over. But still it goes on.

    Something like this could tear a church apart. There are relatives on both sides at our church.

    All I can do is pray and if I see any more inappropiate behavior, I will talk to her again.

    Susan
     
    #23 susanpet, Sep 11, 2002
  4. Grammy1013

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    Stay away from even the APPEARANCE of evil -- that's where the bible tells the married man not to be alone with the woman.

    The man must be confronted, but not by a woman alone. Your pastor and/or you and your husband should confront him, and also speak to the woman on a separate occasion (confronting both, but not together, not knowing which -- if either -- has sinned ... but they're giving the 'appearance' of sin).

    IF that doesn't work or isn't possible, THEN go to the pastor. We are to confront our brothers and sisters face to face before involving the church (pastor).

    Whatever you do though, do not discuss any of this with anyone. It's essentially 'gossip' and may cause a brother to stumble.
     
    #24 Grammy1013, Sep 11, 2002
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