Your connotation: "I have held my hands to people I have not given the ability to come to me...
That is exactly right Skandelon. Duet 29:4 But to this day the LORD has not given you a mind that understands or eyes that see or ears that hear.
And:
MT 13:11 He replied, "The knowledge of the secrets of the kingdom of heaven has been given to you, but not to them. 12 Whoever has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken from him. 13 This is why I speak to them in parables: "Though seeing, they do not see; though hearing, they do not hear or understand.
...but I want people to think I'm merciful and longsuffering toward the unrepentant."
That is just your take put in a way that gives me the impression you don't like what you hear. God never gives the impression that He loves all men,
...They stumble because they disobey the message--which is also what they were destined for. 1 Peter 2:8.
MB. His whole plan calls for Him to have patience. He waited for Calvarly. He waited thousands of years with the knowledge that it would, were He to be corporal, make Him sweat blood. He waits for the sheep to come to come. His plan includes His patience.

His Sovereignty is not displaced by His having to wait but He could in the twinkling of the eye finish it now with all the elect elected and all the reprobates reprobated. The reason He does not is due to His plan involving cause and effect. I find that simple and easy to understand. He waits for us as He builds His Church. He has set the times but is itching for the fulfilment of the times. He is actually excited about me. When I threw in the towel He rejoiced even though He knew I would come.
God is "Sovereign" the problem is the mis-definition of the word Sovereign.
Sovereign means Sovereign MB. My Sovereign is more Sovereign than your sovereign.

That must be true, (Anselm).
It doesn't mean control, it means "Authority".
God is not in control then? I find this a very strange concept. I remember the days I thought He was far off but I became a Christian. Where is the scripture for this non-control, I do not see it? Heb 1:3 The Son is the radiance of God's glory and the exact representation of his being, sustaining
all things by his powerful word...
All things need to be sustained otherwise they would not be. If God can create objects independant of Him I do not know but the system we are in precludes such. He is responsible for cause and effect and He moves each piece into the next correct position according to the laws of the nature He has established.
Although to bring His plan about there are things He has to allow, inorder for it to happen.
If He
has to with anything then He is not Sovereign is He?
In those circumstances He isn't in control.
And with this you want to prove Him Sovereign?

A God that is not in control isn't God because He is not Sovereign. DA 4:35 All the peoples of the earth are regarded as
nothing. He does as he pleases with the powers of heaven and the peoples of the earth. No one can hold back his hand or say to him: "What have you done?"
We are nothing. You are nothing as I am. Nothing is us. All glory goes to God. We are property and He treats us as such. If He wants to condemn us for no reason He is free to do so and that is precisely what He does. JOB 9:15 Though I were innocent, I could not answer him; I could only plead with my Judge for mercy.
Sin for an example; God cannot even touch it and remain righteous.
Your definition of sin is wrong then. Sin is disobedience to God?

Only if He is disobedient to Himself can a charge of Sinner be levelled at Him and then you have the trouble of bringing the charge and bringing Him to His own bench. The Catholic King Charles I had the right argument concerning this only he wasn't sovereign, he only had authority not sovereignty.
john.